My lovely Dad

Sorry everyone, feeling a bit tender.  My lovely Dad passed away 6 years ago today.  My Grandad is giving me away in November, and we've put a page in our order of service in my Dad's memory.  It's been a sad day, really doesn't feel like it's been so long, I remember him like I spoke to him this morning.  Just wondered if anyone else is going through similar emotions - and how you plan to remember loved ones who can't be with you on your special day xx

I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I just wanted to stop by and give you a virtual hug xxx

Big hug x x x x x x x x

Hello, sorry to hear you are going through some tough times. My Dad also passed away - over 9 years ago. My brother will be giving me away. We want to visit his grave but cannot before the wedding due to Chinese tradition which is sad. I'm not sure what we will do on the day itself, but I know it will be really hard and I cry everytime I think about it :( 

Your Grandad must feel so privileged to be able to walk you down the aisle :) xx

Thanks everyone, hugs much appreciated! I know I'm going to shed a lot of tears come November.  I don't have a grave to visit, but will asking our Vicar to say a prayer for him in the service, and for all the people that can't be there to share the day with us.  

My grandad cried when I asked him to give me away - he's getting a bit fidgety about having to do the speech now though lol!

BadgerBeetle:

Sorry everyone, feeling a bit tender.  My lovely Dad passed away 6 years ago today.  My Grandad is giving me away in November, and we've put a page in our order of service in my Dad's memory.  It's been a sad day, really doesn't feel like it's been so long, I remember him like I spoke to him this morning.  Just wondered if anyone else is going through similar emotions - and how you plan to remember loved ones who can't be with you on your special day xx

Hi badgerbeetle, I am sorry you have had a hard day. My dad passed away nearly 8 years ago and my mum will be giving me away, so I know a little of what you're going through. I know that on the day I will be missing him so much, I was thinking about having a photo out of him and my mum on their wedding day but I don't think we will... our day is meant to be a happy time, so we don't want to have anything that will make us all feel down, it's not like people will forget about him. My dad and my mum's dad, who passed away around 4 years ago, will both be mentioned during my mum's toast and we will 'raise a glass' to honour all our lost and absent loved ones.

Yeah, we've had a couple of people suggest having a photo of him out at the church and reception but I think that's a bit too much - we are putting a photo and a few words in the order of service though, and my sister is doing a MOH speech too so I know she will mention him and raise a toast.  I know he'll be with me. Will be bittersweet I'm sure. I'll have to invest in some good waterproof mascara...

BadgerBeetle:

Yeah, we've had a couple of people suggest having a photo of him out at the church and reception but I think that's a bit too much - we are putting a photo and a few words in the order of service though, and my sister is doing a MOH speech too so I know she will mention him and raise a toast.  I know he'll be with me. Will be bittersweet I'm sure. I'll have to invest in some good waterproof mascara...

Sorry to hear you've had a sad day.  Tomorrow will be 2yrs and 9months since my Dad passed away and it still hurts loads.  We are hoping to wed next year (not set a date yet) and like you I've been thinking of ways to include my Dad as I know his absence will be tangible.  Dad loved his garden and particularly loved Fuschia's and Daffodils so thought we'd try and incorporate them in some way.  Afterwards I intend to take my bouquet up to the Hospice where he spent his final days.  He would have been so happy to see me marrying the man I love and who he thought the world of and I know he will be there with me on the day.  Your Dad will be there with you too and will be happy for you.  (((hugs)))

My dad died 11 years ago so i know how your feeling. My grandad (health permitting) will be walking me down the aisle. I feel as its already going to be an emotional day that i we were to have a photo/or similair it would be too much for some family members. Thats just our feeling though aas everyon eon e is different . Instead i will have the ring he gave to my mum as her enagement ring ( OH was given it to then propose to me with , i then picked one more my style later) tied round my flowers. That way its still remembering him but nothing to obvious . As for the speeches i had asked my younger brother but he will only be 16 at the time and feels he is too shy to say a few words. But whoever takes on the role of the FOTB speech im sure the will mention him . It will be hard not having him on the day but i take some peace in knowing he would have loved my OH they are so alike ( personality/interests) and if he was still here they could have been good friends. Well apart from OH having no interst in football ..... that might have been a sticking point

My Dad passed away just last January, so I know how you feel too I'm planning on having a little picture of him tied to my bouquet, and also both me and my Mom will mention him in our speeches - she's giving me away, and my OH doesn't really do public speaking, so I'll probably say a few words from the two of us. I'm also giving my two brothers a little pin badge each that signify my Dad (I'm having them as "bridesmen" as I've dubbed them). It's going to be hard not having him there though regardless, and the other day I just randomly burst into tears when I realised I wouldn't have a father/daughter dance at my wedding

*hugs*

Hi BB, .....First things first....**** BIG HUG****

We have had 4 close male family members pass away since March 2010, My OH's dad, my Brother and 2 of my Uncles ( 1 of which I've always been very close to). As we both only had a small families in the first place and due to 3 of these 4 being very sudden and unexpected it is still often difficult to deal with. Because of this we did original thought it was best not to do anything regarding "honouring" them all on the day as we thought other family members might find this upsetting but lately I've been considering lighting a single memorial candle at the beginning of the ceremony as a way of honouring all of them. But this might change again over time.

What ever you do your dad will be with you in your heart and that of others regardless.

L x 

I'm truly sorry to hear of your loss. It's never easy to say goodbye to a loved one, but your dad will always be with you.

We've lost both my grandmothers, OH's grandma, my uncle and our family cat and we're hoping to remember them by either having photos on the altar or by having special prayers said to remember them.

Thanks for all your lovely messages, I'm so sorry to hear of all your losses too. This year without him will definitely be harder than usual, but I know he'll be with me and he certainly wont be forgotten on the day :) 

Our vicar is absolutely lovely and he's more than happy to add a piece into the service, which is really nice. xx

Oh badger beetle so sorry to hear this, and the rest of you who have lost loved ones too

big big hugs xxxx