Can I have a moan?

I hope I don't sound completely unreasonable but earlier this morning I was so annoyed and upset. F now sleeps all night and tends to wake around 5am for a feed. I really don't mind getting up at this time and I'm more than happy to do it everyday especially when H is working but every once in a while it'd be quite nice if H could do one of them at the weekends just so that I can have a little break. Most Sundays, H is up early to go and play golf and therefore doesn't like to do the feed on Sundays so I usually ask him to do the Saturday morning. This Friday night however, he was out drinking and got home at midnight and therefore didn't feel up to much yesterday morning, I mentioned something to him yesterday about it and he said as he was going to be up early this morning he'd be able to do the feed this morning for me.

So, at 5:05am this morning F is waking up. H doesn't usually hear F stir at all in the night (convenient for men isn't it) so I was surprised when he got up to go and make the bottle. Brilliant I thought. When he came back I reminded him that F would need changing before feeding. H just looked at me and said that he couldn't feed him as he had to be up soon. When I reminded him of what he said yesterday he denied it and made me out to be making it up. He gets back into bed and I take F off to feed him.

This probably sounds really stupid to get upset over but since he's started sleeping through it feels a bit like H doesn't think I'd like a break or any help. On the whole, H is brilliant but I really don't think he appreciates how hard it can be looking after a little one 24/7. He gets to go to work and not see F having his moments and when I tell him about them he doesn't believe me. He likes to remind me that I wanted a baby and he's right but does that mean I'm not allowed to have a lie in every now and then?

I feel a little bad moaning about this because I'm going out for a few hours this afternoon to celebrate a friend's birthday whilst H has F but it's not like I do this regularly.

Anyone else feel like this at times?

Moan away.

J started waking at 5, and after weeks of it, it takes it's toll. My H doesn't get up for work in the week until 8, so told him he can have J when he gets up at weekends, so I can catch up on sleep. 

Yesterday, H slept in until 10, J was up just before 5 so I was knackered, and fuming. This morning, when J woke up at 5, I plonked him on H (who slept on the sofa) and went back to bed. I'm still in bed now.

He moans when I went out one night, despite the fact id put the kids to bed, so he didn't have to do anything, yet thinks its fine to feck off fishing, leaving me with the kids. How is that fair?

Moan away, I did too at the weekend!

We had a similar 'discussion'.  Normally, H will lie in on Fridays and I get saturdays but for the last few weeks this has not happened so I reminded him of this...  R still wakes in the night and the last couple of months has been awake from 5/5.30 and wanting to go down stairs to play (he is 2yrs 8 months) and as mentioned after a while this catches up with you!

Friday night I went off to bed leaving H on the computer and evetually he came  to bed at 2am, and I knew he would regret it.  5.30 on the dot R wakes up, I kick H awake to go deal with it while I stayed in bed until 10am.  He was shattered all day and was in bed asleep by 10pm which is unheard of for him.  I felt no guilt though as he knew he had to get up

Have a fun time today and feel no guilt, getting up at 5 every morning is not fun.

You're right, it does take its toll. Sometimes I think that when you have kids, the man's life doesn't actually change much whereas ours changes immensly and it is quite hard to adjust to I guess.

H keeps telling me I should go out and have time for myself, like maybe a yoga class or something, but it's difficult enough getting the chance to go to my Weight Watchers meetings alone! Last week H was late home and F had to come with me which messes up his bedtime and next week will be the same. I'm not sure there's much point in trying to do something else for myself!

Lucky Charm:

 

Friday night I went off to bed leaving H on the computer and evetually he came  to bed at 2am, and I knew he would regret it.  5.30 on the dot R wakes up, I kick H awake to go deal with it while I stayed in bed until 10am.  He was shattered all day and was in bed asleep by 10pm which is unheard of for him.  I felt no guilt though as he knew he had to get up

 

Maybe he thought you'd forget what he said

In the early days H had an idea that we'd have one maybe two nights a week where the other would take F and sleep in the spare room for the night so that the other could have a full night's sleep. It lasted a week...

My OH used to try this number. Now I *** and moan long enough that neither of us get a lie in. I refuse to be the only one losing sleep! If I'm tired - YOU ARE TIRED TOO!

H used to be brilliant and would give J to me to feed (he was bfed until 10 months) and then get up with him and then it got to the stage where we were both up at 6 at the weekend and knackered so we have a day each where we sleep in, H has Sat and I have Sun. doesn't always work, depending on what we are doing but gives us a chance of a rest in the morning

I think that was really unfair of your H this morning. You shouldn't feel bad for going out this afternoon, enjoy yourself!! My H will openly admit that going to work is easier than spending a day on his own with E. 

Its very tough beign with them 24/7, as much as we love them! I'd do what NN says i think and make a racket if you have to get up when your H has said he would in future . Glad you feel better after your afternoon out. 

A fellow golf widow here

Naughty of your H for sure,  but goodness me, don't be feeling bad about going out for a few hours this afternoon. Bet it wasn't as long as he was on the golf course.