Would You Be Offended...

Or pull a face, (or not notice?!) if you didn't get a buttonhole for a wedding where you were a guest?

Thoughts please, ladies?

I didn't know you were supposed to get a buttonhole if you are a guest

I think I'd be more annoyed if I was 'forced' top wear one!  Pins are not good for nice material!

Seriously though I'd rather not wear one, and I dont think its really done now is it for all guests?

We are only getting buttonholes for the bridal party, and I've never been to a wedding where I've been provided with a buttonhole.

I'm not sure what the ettiquette is for buttonholes but we are going to have them for OH, best man, page boys (our sons) & parents on both sides. I probably will offend someone but if I give them to all siblings & their spouses I'll need an extra ten!! Would give to ushers if we were having some. 

I'm also considering getting silk or foam buttonholes as they are very reasonable & from what I can tell they look nice.

In past couple of years, two of my brothers & my OHs brother have got married & we didn't get buttonholes. I didn't mind at all.

Not if I was 'just' a guest. Who are you referring to? I am just getting buttonholes for the bridal party including the dads of course and for corsages the mums and only gran. The step mum and step dad aren't getting anything because they are very new and my OH isn't keen on them and doesn't consider them as step parents anyway. They may a be a bit miffed but neither of us particularly care.

Nowadays, it's really only the groom's party that have button holes, and sometimes the mothers have corsages. I'd find it odd, as a regular guest, to be offered one in all honesty.

Red Baroness:

Nowadays, it's really only the groom's party that have button holes, and sometimes the mothers have corsages. I'd find it odd, as a regular guest, to be offered one in all honesty.

 

This.  At our wedding, the groom's party had them, my Mum, Mr S' Stepmum & Mum also.  Oh and we gave one to my Grandad & Great Aunt so they would be included.

I think it's an old tradition that all guests have buttonholes. It's certainly not the norm these days. I haven't been to one wedding where the guests have been offered them (and I've been to a LOT of weddings!). OH will often wear his own, as his SIL is a florist, so she often makes them for the whole family.

I wouldn;t be too botheres if I wasn't part of the bridal party, I think its looks better just for the bridal party to have them as well as is distinguishes them from the rest of the guests.

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I've only been to one wedding in the last few years that gave all the guests a buttonhole. To be honest, I'd rather not have one.

We made sure all the men in the bridal party had one and we gave the two mothers a spray each.

You lot are a wealth of imformation!

Why am I being told I should pay £1.60 for each of my guests to have one then. Mmmm maybe it's a North West thing (or the two people are clueless). I'll happlily go with the latter and save myself an extra £120.

Thanks, girls

IshouldCoco:

Why am I being told I should pay £1.60 for each of my guests to have one then.

Who's telling you that? It really is a very old tradition, and one I have yet to see at any wedding I've attended. Save yourself the money and don't bother!

The Mil and my other friend (she's 36). I've bought 10, I dunno how I'l divvy them out now ha.

(Ps, they are silk. God knows what real would have set us back then!)

yea i would be more annoyed if i were made to wear one,  dont want a pin or the flower to stain/ruin my clothes and i find it a bit odd actually most guys would not dream of going out with a flower pinned to them so i dont see why there is a sudden need to for it at a wedding.

I'm not at that hot up to date on ceremony etiquette but on our quote we had this.

For the sake of £20 I'm going to keep the singles in for uncles, aunts and anyone else who might want one, that said, I might also take them out.

Also, on the ivory rose corsage/buttonhole we're having magnets so fastening with a pin won't ruin anyones clothes. These are mainly for Mum's and Nan's though.  A "regular" guest can have one if it's spare but I won't be catering and to be honest, I can't imagine any of mine or OH's friends being bothered.

OH isn't having one at all!!