Please answer!!!!! I can't stop crying?

plz help :( I and this guy met over facebook , he is in Lebanon and I am here in Australia and I usually go over there to see my relatives and we both from the same town and we would talk every day for hours. We both began to like each other and he even met my aunty that lives there. We talked for one year and he told his friends and mom that he wanted to marry me and he would call me his future wifey. But we knew that we had to take things slow and meet in person before we could take things further. But then I got very clingy so he said that he didn’t want to take things further and wanted to stay friends since I didn’t give him space to breath. So I told him that I loved him and I backed off completely and I cut him off my facebook. But he got mad so I said I was sorry and we became friends again since we were always just friends. And I started looking more beautiful and I got busy with my own life. And he would ask me if I had guys in my life and I told him that I was going there soon and that I would say hello to him as my friend. But he said that I wouldn’t have time for him as so many men would be after me. But I said that I would see him. I even met his aunty that is going there soon since I had to drop off this portion shake that I got him months ago and she said that he showed her a photo of me. So when I saw him online he thanked me and I told him to take care and I said goodbye and he said why are you talking like that? And I asked him if he still wanted to see me since I’m going there next month and he said yes. I haven’t been talking to him for 2 weeks now and he saw me online but he was offline and he asked me how I was? And I said that I was very happy and doing well and he paused for awhile then I asked him how he was and he said that he was spending all his time with his cousins that are there visiting him and he said that he was good? And he asked me again how I was? And I told him that I was really happy and he said okay and he just went offline? Why does he act like that.

Hello stepcideee,

I read your story and noticed some points why he possibly acted that way now.

First, you said you became clingy and because of that he changed his mind towards you and your 'relationship'.  No one likes a clingy girlfriend because it is very annoying to the other person.  In addition, he is not yet your boyfriend and he is just in the stage of showing interest in you without yet meeting you personally.  Your clingy personality was the dominant description that he knew about you even from the start and it is bad and it created damage to what he possibly see in the 'relationship' that is sprouting.

If you really want him to be your boyfriend, you can change his outlook about you. 

You said you are communicating through FB?  Then, do this through FB too. 

Post things about happy relationships, love quotes, life quotes, your life updates, your pictures with friends, etc without mentioning him.  Make him like you and make him find love through your posts.  Make him like you or love you by creating your own personality through your FB updates.  When he ask you something, reply to him naturally.  Avoid being clingy.  Love will bloom eventually if there is magic or a chemistry that exist between the two of you.

Cheers!

Karinna Kittles-Karsten

~ love educator and relationship expert

maybe its because you smell like spam.......just sayin

lol this made me chuckle!

What happened now?