Wonderful that you will be having the wedding of your dreams, it was obviously meant to be.
I'm not the most organised person either so know where you are coming from on that score!
Like you, we will only be inviting close family and friends. We started out by listing the names of everyone we know and then went through crossing people off until we were happy with who we'd got.
Thats good. The other things which have helped us is the ammount of friends / family offering to help.
My older sister is making my jewellery, my younger sister is making the cake and we had offers of photography from other friends. A colleagues daughter is doing my flowers at a very good price, and everything else we have haggled on.
You would be surprised at how much people are willing to move on price when you ask. And if you don't ask, you don't get!
There are also a number of things which I felt weren't nessecary for a wedding and therefore we wont be having them at all.
This will include: favours, chair covers, guest books, large evening buffet, dj etc...
We got hitched 7/7/12
Now a full member of the 'old married's club!'