So the chicken went down well!!! Update

Mil is increasingly deteriorating so we are making lots of effort to do lots of family things all week and the weekend. Today the ils and bil sil and awful niece are coming for roast lamb dinner. I arranged with sil during the week and invited her for a roast lamb dinner, mil and fil know it's a roast lamb dinner (mils fave). H seen sil yesterday and said he's got a lovely leg of lamb for Sunday!!! They are coming at 3, is it rude to send a text and say that I fact bil doesn't fancy lamb can we do him a chicken breast instead?????? I'm furious!!!! H has said fine and is frantically searching the freezer for one! I think how f***ing rude! H has said that due to his mums very poor health then I've just to ignore anything that riles me and fine I won't say anything to keep the peace but FFS!!! I have a 3 year old who eats what we eat, I was brought up with you eat what everyone eats so I don't see why a 33 year old man can't cope with eating what we eat. He's never tried lamb doesn't like veg so he's coming for chicken and mashed potatoes (doesn't like any other potato) now if sil or bil had said during the week when they were invited that he didn't like lamb then I'd have probably rethought what we would have and did chicken or something, had they said yesterday when h told them he'd bought lamb I'd have got a chicken breast out the freezer but to tell us just over an hour before they come arrrrrrrrrgh [and breathe]

and mil who is very ill (not confused) but in quite poor health told me today that I got quite a bit of grey hair at the side of my head

*update* well Theyv all gone, he ate the chicken breast. He said (at the dinner rable) he didn't fancy lamb at all, he's never tried it but knows he won't like it niece also wanted chicken breast as she apparently doesn't Like lamb either (sil made her try a bit and she enjoyed it!)

mil told sil about my grey hairs

I'm taking mil to st Anne's for the day tomorrow (best try to disguise the grey hairs!)

I have wine for the night!!!!!!

o also to those who have said about their hs not liking things, when h moved in with me he didn't like veg, fish or any cheese other than cheddar I just started putting veg on his plate if I was having veg and the sand with fish etc and he now eats anything! H was 25 and had only ever had breaded fish before!

In a word, yes.

 

If you are invited as a guest for a meal (allergies aside) you eat what's put down in front of you or politely leave the bits you don't like. End of. Especially if you have already been told what is being served and haven't said anything (although personally I would have found that rude anyway). BIL needs to man up.

 

That is seriously rude! I hope he doesn't ruin the meal for you all

Cheeky sod! it's hard work as it is getting a roast ready for this many people without having to make special meals. I would be tempted to say you didn't have time to go out and buy him chicken so if he doesn't like it he can just have a plate of mash!! (who in their right mind doesn't like a lamb roast anyway?!)

Yup rude rude rude. Tbh my H is a fussy eater, I blame the MIL as she let him dictate his diet from when she weaned basically, rather than deciding that she knew his needs better than he did, so I've got an element of sympathy for him but I'd never expect someone to make something different with an hours notice. And I'm also working to get him eating "normally" as I'm like you - M eats what we eat because that's what's put down in front of her. Making separate meals is ridiculous and while I undo Hs bad eating habits I'm not allowing them to start in M. 

As for your MIL - sorry but that made me giggle only cos that's the kind of helpful thing mine would say too

Open a bottle of wine and don't let them get to you xx

I'm seething! Thank god I'm Not alone thinking its rude! I'm venting here as its unfair to vent to h as he had enough on his plate. Fine if he was allergic or genuinely didn't like it but he has never tried it and I hate when people say they don't like something but have never tried it. Anyway it's being defrosted in microwave and if he dares say that it's tough or anything I think il shove his head in the mashed potato grrrrrrrrrrrr!

i would conveniently forget to cook the chicken. I'd roast the potatoes 'by accident' too. and as for not liking veg? oh grow up.

Adults as picky eaters is a pet hate of mine!! If you go to someone's house for dinner you eat what's put in front of you!! H is a but picky bur used to be much worse, particularly with veg (I blame mil!) but is much improved since we've been together. Even he would eat what he was given when out. I'm determine p won't grow up with the same habits!

What's rude is the fact he 'doesn't fancy' lamb. It would almost be forgivable if it was he doesn't like lamb, or doesn't eat lamb. But just because he isn't in the mood for it!! Rude. Very rude!

Haha what loobyg said!

I'd serve him up the roast that everyone else is having, and say in a really cheery voice that he can leave what ever he doesn't like, and that you won't be offended at all. That way no extra cooking for you and he goes home hungry....win win!

Very rude!  I'd have text back saying 'sorry don't have anything else' and served him what everyone else was having.

I was all for serving up the lamb and veg and roast pots but h said he wants his mum to have a nice time and wants everyone smiling, me being a though would gladly serve him up the lamb!! He'd better not comment all the way through that he doesn't Like lamb and doesn't Like the idea of it etc etc,

I can totally see why you're keeping the peace but surely BIL should be doing the same and eating the dinner you've cooked for him?!

Unless he has an allergy to lamb then yes, it is extremely rude! I don't blame your H for not wanting to make a fuss with your MIL though. Take some deep breaths, spit on his chicken (joke) and just carry on as best you can. There's always one isn't there?! Have a lovely meal xx