Stand back. Great big rant coming.

Pip it could be that the other siblings are a bit younger than my boys (who are 13 months) and it's hard to sort of confront - I've replied with stuff like "can't come as not double pram friendly/got the twins with me too" etc and these are not nasty people, they just don't get how hard it is. You (or I wouldn't anyway) say no to ONE baby but two is beyond the pale somehow. We discuss this endlessly at twins club (which I set up! [preen] Got fed up with their being nothing for twins so did it myself!) and we all say the same thing - we don't get asked to things/people's houses like we did when there was just one child.

Ronja don't be nice, it makes me cry! Wish you lived closer too. X

**Pip**:

I understand with the head count thing but it still isnt fair, surely that rule applies to all siblings then? I would never think to exclude someone because of the number of children they have!

Exactly this! I'm really shocked, I invite all siblings whether they have 1 or 5.

I to would have the arse about it all. 

That's really crap HB. Things are always tougher in this weather too as it's not so easy just to put them all in the pram and get out. Your friends sound like they're being pretty thoughtless at times, I don't understand not inviting the boys to parties.

I wish I lived near by as I'd invite you over to play with us. M would love hanging out with all those boys. 

I'm wondering If i'm one of those you are talking about - I know I only invited T to A's party and I felt really bad about it but we honeslty didn't/don't have room for more children than the ones that were invited (infact they didn't all come and it was still a big squeeze) - I'm not sure what else I could do, we couldn't afford to hire anywhere like a hall so it had to be in our very small house with very limited numbers.No other siblings were invited either.

I'll be honest and say no i don't have any idea what its like having T and the twins, of course i don't as i don't have 3 small children but i'm not sure what i can do about that - i try to understand as best I can but unless we are lucky enough to have anymore, whether its 1 more or 2 more etc I can only understand the position I'm in at the moment which is with one child.

I'm not sure what else I can say - sorry x

HB - where are you? If you anywhere near me come round Actually come one come all. I prefer people coming to my house because then mine aren't going to trash someone elses house And I'm too fecking lazy to go anywhere

But arse status totally understood, so frustrating, needing another adult for one to one stuff

Pittabre and PB I'm near Stansted airport - I bet you're miles away! :-(

GF, as I texted, it's more a general thing - I understand totally about the space thing, and was thrilled that T was invited at all. it's just that it keeps happening - at one party I know that L took baby J, who is 3 months younger than mine because "where could she leave him?" Er, WTF? Where do I leave my boys then?!

Holly Bags:

Pittabre and PB I'm near Stansted airport - I bet you're miles away! :-(  

See, you are not that far away from me, but travelling that kind of distance with small kids might be too far right now. I am without car which isn't helping. If you ever fancy coming over, you are more than welcome. We can take them to softplay or just let them play at my house. It's small, but plenty enough space for another set of twins or even two.

Holly Bags:

Pittabre and PB I'm near Stansted airport - I bet you're miles away! :-(

 

I'm next Teesside airport so you could pop on a plane? Bugger though sorry. This is the biggest problem I find with Hitched you meet people you'd like to meet but then can't meet them.