Do you post what you think?

PJ444:

Hollywood:

Beez:

Recently I've been 'brave' in mentioning mix feeding when people are struggling on their bf journey. I would never gave done that six months ago because I know it could be perceived as not being supportive.

Hey, that's offering people the full picture. That's good. That's what we're about.

I've 'supported' those who've chosen to FF from the beginning because our experiences shape us, and although I always thought I'd BF it wasn't to be, and I am SO proud of my happy, non-obese, non-ill, fab sleeping formula fed beauty. Formula saved her life so anyone who tells me it wasn't the 'best' for her can sit on it FFers sometimes appear ashamed on here so I'm more than happy to wave its flag, where appropriate, and you should be too honey

 

That really put a smile on my face SB. Its the one thing that upsets me since having R. Every runny nose or sign of illness I feel people say 'thats because he was FF!! and not BF' I know its all in my head but reading that helps!  

It IS in your head honey. What they're really saying is: "hope little one is OK". Don't torture yourself, nobody else is

Hollywood:

Don't torture yourself, nobody else is

WSS. It's your decision at the end of the day. And tough if no one else likes it.

I would love to post more of what I'm saying in my head but I do tone it down. There are some posts that really wind me up but I don't want to offend anyone so I keep quiet. I do try and help where I can though as I have got so much from this board.

I think I managed to piss people off for posting how I felt recently. I don't think I'll bother in future.

WRT to FF, I started out BFing but it went tits up, so to speak, between 9 and 16 weeks and ended up FFing. I beat myself up so much over it especially when O's eczema flared up during this time. We've got to do what we feel is right (making a decision based on the information available to us) for our LOs without fear of feeling like a failure especially as this parenting malarky is a minefield.

I either say what I feel or button it!!  I don't lie.

No I don't always post what I think, I will give a differing opinion although sometimes I will avoid controversial subjects as I don't have the energy to get into debates.

Also I am a firm believer in nothing nice to say then say nothing at all, if my opinion won't add anything too the post but cause controversy then I won't bother as its pointless, I'm not out for arguments and debates I have enough of that at home haha

No not always, sometimes its already been said and there doesn't seem too much point in repeating.

I never lie & I do try & say what I think about things but a lot of topics covered here aren't ones that I have experience of so don't always offer an opinion if that's the case. What I love about this place is that you can disagree with people on various subjects without it turning into a blood bath

I say what i think just try and put it in a nice way. but i must admit there are certain people i just think FFS !!

More often than not I don't post (hence the low post count for the number of years I've been here) as I think I have a lot of different views, and if something has already been answered then I tend not to add any more.  I tend to write & delete a lot for fear of offending someone, and do r&r quite a bit too.

Beez:

Dumblespud - I don't recall anything?
KB3 - who?

I won't say anything more, sorry, i don't want to be perceived as 'stirring'.

I don't always post what I think no. I think I can be pretty blunt but I do try to only post if I am 100% that what I saying is factually correct...I'm not frightened to correct someone giving out the wrong info. If it's opinion then I think everyone is entitled to their own opinion. 

I also sometimes think/wonder whether or not what I might say is going to hurt someone. For example, the old breastfeeding vs. bottle feeding thing - since others have mentioned it. There is often lots I could say but I don't because it wouldn't achieve anything and I don't believe that any mother should feel guilty for her feeding choices. What I mean by that is that sometimes it's said that it makes no difference but the truth is I don't believe we know, and we can't know truly until adulthood. For a percentage it won't make any difference and for others it will. However life is about far more than bottle or breastfeeding....last time I looked, no-one was ever asked how they were fed on a job interview, nor when they weaned, nor when they were potty trained. The decisions that we make as parents of babies sometimes seem huge and overwhelming but in the long path of parenthood, something else soon comes to occupy our concerns. The parents that worry about the decisions that they make are the ones that matter....those that don't care what effect their decisions will have on their children and their lives, those are the parents to worry about, those are the children to worry about. We will all make mistakes but that is how we learn and it's also how we teach our children that it is ok to make mistakes sometimes. We aren't perfect but we are perfect for our children. 

Be honest - yes! Be mindful of others feelings - yes! Think about whether or not it will truly make a difference....whether it be to the OP or to someone else reading it. Oh and don't give out what you can't take..... - that's my policy

If I can't think of a good way to say something I wont post but I try o be honest about how I feel. If I really disagree with someone nd can't think of anything nice to say but it's not something tht screams out 'stop 'them' I'll stay quiet.

For me, it really depends what kind of mood I'm in.  Sometimes I really want to reply to things that annoy me or that I don't agree with, but don't because I can't be bothered with the fall out if no one else has posted my point of view, so just ignore it.  However, if I have PMT, I seem to post exactly what I really think and not give a damn.  I don't lie though, it's either I reply honestly, or I just don't reply.