Weve been to numerous weddings in the last few years, the majority saying that they dont want gifts, but would appreciate the money for honeymoon etc. I dont see how anyone can find this offensive!
A wedding list is a traditional request, but most people have lived together so the money that would be spent on a gift can be put towards a honeymoon. No difference! Plus, saves people having to wonder what to buy as a gift!
We put an additional slip of paper in with the invites saying:
As we are so lucky to have a home together and already own many of the items that we need, we have decided not to request wedding gifts. We know, however, that some of you have been enquiring about this so we would like to say that if it is your intention to mark the occasion of our marriage with a gift, then we would be more than grateful to receive a small contribution towards our honeymoon.
More than anything, we hope that you can make it on the day, so please dont feel obliged to give in any way.