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kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

stripeyrache
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  • kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

    AIBU?

    My relationship with my sister(L) is hit and miss, she is 21/2 years younger than me and can be selfish where as I'd give anything to help family/friends.   Our relationship gradually got better each time L returned from working abroad over a period of 4 years - so much so she came to live with us on 2 seperate occasions whilst house hunting.  Since she has had her house, 2.5 years ago,  the relationship has gone downhill.  J my daughter, her only niece loves L and her little girl O to pieces.

    L announced she had gotten engaged and set a date beginning of May to get married next year, has since announced on facebook that she had booked venue and also bought wedding dress and bridesmaid dresses - no discussions/text with me letting me know who she has choosen to be bridesmaid.  Since july over something quite petty but a build up of issues we haven't really spoken.  When I did see her for J's birthday and casually asked how the plans were going the reply was 'everything sorted apart from cake and rings'  no other expantion and I felt she was achoring after me asking questions over everything (history with control of information).

    L hasn't asked J to be flowergirl, I am mad and upset with L as more info is coming out about the wedding (from our parents) that L was going to ask but only probably out of duty and then the fallout happened and is waiting for me to build bridges and then she *may* ask J.  I think my issue with this is that we may have had a falling out but that is between me and her not J.   

    Sorry for rambling just need to get it out

     

    Jessica 09/08/07

    Daniel 20/12/11

  • Re: kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

    No thats not fair on J at all. Regardless of what state you two are in its not the childs fault! I dont think saying anything will help tbh, if thats her attitude. xx

    Baby boy 2011 Angel 

  • Re: kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

    You're exactly right. The issue is between you and her. Not her and your LO.

    H and I can't stand his sister, she's a complete cow. But we still had her LO as our flowergirl because she is our niece and we adore despite who her mother is.

    Mrs S since Feb 2011 | https://stripeyrache.wordpress.com/ | Angel 06/11 & 08/11

  • Re: kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

    I just needed to get it out, I think H has heard enough and just says what do you expect it's L! TBH as much as it hurts I'm going to leave it as prior to this I took then stance of don't get involved and then she can't hurt me but this does.

    Jessica 09/08/07

    Daniel 20/12/11

  • Re: kind of o/t sister vent (long sorry)

    • giddy
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    What a horrible situation, and what a shame for your LO that she's been left out. Weddings bring out the worst in people (by that I mean your S, not you). If she isn't asked, make a big fuss of your lo, taking her to buy a new dress etc so that she still feels special on the day. I'd say don't get into a conversation with your sister about it, and keep your head held high x x

    Baby girl March 2006 Baby girl July 2008 Baby girl November 2011

     

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