Difficult guest *Rant*

I've posted on here before about one of OH's friends (M) who is still bitter from his divorce (10yrs ago!) and has been so unsupportive of us getting married. Well, he's got worse.

First of all he said he couldn't come to the wedding breakfast but he would come for the ceremony and to the last hour of the evening reception. So we ordered the invitations with this in mind. About 2 months ago he changed his mind and said he would take a day off for the wedding and come for the whole day, so I made him his own invitation as we hadn't ordered a day invite for him and he needed the seperate info about menu choices, etc that wasn't included in the ceremony-only invites. He then called OH at 1am yesterday morning to say that he had invited a friend from London to visit him for a few days the day before the wedding and could she come to the wedding too? OH said she could come to the ceremony and the evening reception but not the wedding breakfast as we have already decided on numbers and it was enough trouble to squeeze him in at such short notice, let alone his friend. So M announced that in that case he would only come for the ceremony and evening reception after all because he doesn't want to leave his friend on her own.   

As if that wasn't bad enough M then started trying to pry into our relationship and predicting that we will end up divorcing. Even saying 'I hope you prove me wrong about this'. At this point OH realised M was drunk and hung up. 

He has said stuff before ('she's too young to know what she's doing'; 'she will get bored of you in a year or two and want to sleep with other men'; 'at least you will get a good party out of all this') but this is the worst yet. I know its not personal because OH never talks about me much to him and he has only spoken to me properly once before when I was 19 years old and OH and I had just started dating. His entire knowledge of our relationship is based on that.

I don't want him to come at all but I am letting OH make the final decision. M has been really good to OH in the past, giving him somewhere to live and work when he first came to England and giving him a job last year when OH was struggling to find work. As a result, I think he feels like he is indebted to M and can't stand up to him. Anyway I'm trying to encourage OH to stand up more to M and set some boundaries - whether that is to exclude him from the wedding altogether or to make him stop saying that our relationship will fail. I'm trying not to influence his decision too much and avoid a mega-rant in front of him which is why this is all on here.

Please feel free to call M a twunt or rant about your own annoying guests.

PS. Sorry It's so long!

That's awful, I hope your M decides to uninvite him, I wouldn't want anyone unsupportive there watching our special vows to each other who didn't fully believe in M or myself. Definite twunt!

I hope your OH makes a decision to stand up to him soon, M sounds like a nightmare!  I'm not sure I'd be able to keep my mouth shut through all that, so well done! 

Oh my gosh, he sounds like a nightmare  I know I wouldn't want someone like that at our wedding... And certainly not just bringing along a randomer, so rude of him to assume it would be ok to bring his friend! Really hope you manage to sort it out...

Date twin 

The bloke sounds like an absolute nobber!!! We've got one a bit the same but he has chilled out recently. Cam't bear to see anyone happy if he's not!

I'd just compeltely ignore him, showing him that you're happy together and his comments are just BS will get to him more than having a go ever would

x

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Please feel free to call M a twunt or rant about your own annoying guests.

 

  

I think twunt is my new favourite word!! " /> I feel for you tho and I think your remaining very calm (Ive read most of your posts about this guy!). Your doing the right thing by encourage your OH to take a stand and I think thats all you can do.

My annoying guest (invited due my mum "wanting her friend there") was getting a lift down with my sister (who is my BM) but has now decided to go on holiday and wont be back til the day before the wedding and will miss a lift with my sister. She then phoned my mum to moan about it and got her to look for train times online!

You will never please everyone... I have heard of rumblings about our table plan (no top table and we're sitting with ushers and bestman) but I can be bothered to care anymore. If they haven't got the guts to say to your face and this goes for you M too then stuff 'em! x

I would uninvite him- we did this to MrMinis dad when was less than happy about our upcoming marraige- you dont want twunts like that there.

Vintage_Mini:

I would uninvite him- we did this to MrMinis dad when was less than happy about our upcoming marraige- you dont want twunts like that there.

I agree. You dont want people bringing their negativity to you big day

Yeah I definitely don't want him there. I'm leaving it up to OH to decide whether to uninvite him but if he mentions the d word one more time then I will.

I'm trying not to be too pushy as I've already said no to another one of OH's friends who wanted to bring some random girl along so he could impress her with a free 3 course meal.

He's had at least 10 strikes already, aj. He's unable to open his mouth now without saying something incredibly rude. I've changed my mind; I'm talking to OH about this when he gets home from work tonight and getting this guy off the guest list.

I don't even know why they are friends. Even before we got together, M used to tell all his friends (especially any female friends) that OH was gay (?!) which, considering M is homophobic, was obviously an attempt to make OH look bad.

Thank you, that's really helpful advice. I'm going to pass all you've said onto OH. Luckily they only have one mutual friend and he is fairly sane so I'm sure he won't believe any nasty gossip that might be spread. He has already been left out of the stag party plans because he is so unpopular with everyone.

Absolute TWUNT!

that is all