I feel totally gutted, i could cry :-(.My maid of honour has been organising my hen do...limo, meal at Jamie Olivers and clubbing/bar crawl. I gave her a list of people id like to come, 4 people have replied and the rest declined.

I must be the worlds most unpopular bride :-( i feel so hurt.

 

Sorry for rant, has anyone else had this?

xx

Poor you :(  I think sometimes you find out who your real friends are when hen dos are mentioned.  I've not organised mine yet but my best friend is getting married just before me andher hen do is costing loads so I'm already anticipating lots of people saying they can't make it as they'll be broke!

Do you know why the others declined?  I only ask as if it's money, maybe you could change the plan a bit to leep the cost down?  If not s*d them!

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Awwww, hun!

I'm sure you're not an unpopular bride - I bet they've all RSVP'd yes to the wedding? Hope they've all given you blo*dy good reasons as to why they can't come.

We've got our wedding & another friend's within a week of each other so I'm sure I'll probably have the same thing happen!

I'm so sorry sweetie this is really upsetting. Unfortunately spring summer is such a busy time for weddings, holidays etc that often people are busy and prioritise other things over hen do's. Also in the current economic situation a lot of people can't afford to splash out on a big fancy night out even though they would love to be there to celebrate with the bride. If thinking of your friends you think this might be the case why not try opting for something more affordable or even hosting/asking MOH to host a bridal shower/party US style with finger food - these can be really classy with a bit of thought. You can then enjoy your special night with MOH and a few friends. I'm sure its nothing to do with them not wanting to come - i certainly wouldnt turn down a night like that without good reason - sounds fab! Whatever you do i hope you have a lovely time!

Was it arranged with quite short notice? I just looked at your ticker and looks like not long till the big day, I found that we had to arrange my hen do months in advance to find a date everyone could do (and even then only 2/3rds of people can make it...)

Also is cost a factor? Sounds from what you describe as though the cost per person could be quite a bit and at the moment a lot of people are just trying to tighten purse strings.

Overall though no - definitely not unpopular bride! I'm sure the declining people have good reasons and don't mean it to hurt you at all. xx

The night isnt that pricey to be honest, £35 for limo and meal is about £12 for a main. One is on holiday, one is on her own 'work hen do', one is apparently working all day and night (mmmmmm?) and the others just said no.

Great, always thought i had a lot of friends, maybe not as i thought. They are all coming to the wedding all day.

My maid of honor asked them about 4 weeks ago, the last person to respond replied yesterday.

Oh well :-(

*hugs* try not to dwell on it - just remember what the main goal is here - wedding, marriage. To be honest I wasn't overly bothered about a hen do - we decided one nite away, as cheap as possible. Still my chief BM (its another BM who's organised as Chief is a seriously self centred + in a strop becasue she's not seeing my dress until the day) said to all suggestions either 'I can't do that wkend' or I can't afford it' (but she can afford new boots, spa days etc) but as she tellin another BM these excuses I'm not in a position to have it out with her _ when she got married 4yrs ago I went to absolutely everything she asked me + took the wk off b4 wedding to be her dogsbody. So the moral here is don't think that becasue uve done right for people that they will automatically do it for u. The other side of things is that maybe they already have other plans. Its hard when this is ur one big day + people u thought would make effort just don't. Everyone has their own lives + its never possible to have a nite that suits everyone. Make the most of it with the 4 who have said yes & have a really great fun evening - its quality Not quantity! X

Aww,please don't be down,try to look at it that half are able to make it. I have the most fun with a just few of my friends and that is exactly how i want my hen do to be ,just four or five no more.x

AHhh u ladies are soo lovely. It really hurts but i guess the main thing is that they are all they on the big day.

I had a load of friends decline my hen do invite as well (can't blame short notice because it was organised a good 2 months in advance; can't blame money because it was a meal out followed by a party at my house!) and it really upset me until the actual night when I had the most AMAZING time and decided that all my friends who did come are lovely, wonderful people and I didn't miss the others at all*

 

 

*bar one, who did admittedly have very, very good reasons for not coming!

I wouldnt worry to much about it, im in a similar position, i even considered not having one but i thought i best and some who i thought would be definate yes actually said NO!

Lucie you are not the only one!!! most of my friends are littered round the country and they have mostly said they won't be coming... well i can't be bothered to beg everyone to come to my hen do even though i went to great lengths to go to theirs! 

I have just made the decision that maybe some of the friendships have run their course and if they can't make the effort after the wedding i am not going to bother any more.

i only have 1 friend to invite in the first place, shes my MOH and even she cant be bothered! Hasnt even offered to help plan it, let alone plan anything for me!

Dont worry, you'll have a fab time however many are there

x

For various reasons (distance, cost, etc.) I invited about 10 people to my hen do and for the day I had 3 and 5 for the evening.  We had an amazing time though!