I don't know what to do.....

I really need your help.

as you know i have got a dress but H2B hasn't seen it but someone has said it is yellow and since then he just keeps saying that he HATES the idea of me in a yellow dress. i have told him i havent got it i was only trying on a yellow one but he keeps saying how much he really doesn't like the yellow dresses i have been looking at on ebay. i really do love my dress but REALLY want him to love me in my wedding dress. so dont know what to do my mum paid for my dress and i'm not sure we would get the mony for it back if we sold it and to make matters worse i showed H2B a dress online to put him off the yellow dress and he said he really loves that dress.

Please help me as i just dont know what to do.

sell the dress and get another one that H2B will love me in or keep the yelloe one that i know he will hate me in. i feel like crying.

I have seen your dress and I wouldnt say it was buttercup yellow. Its more a lovely lemon colour. Are you sure your H2B isnt imagining some in-you-face Belle type creation?

Some men just cant see past a white dress for a wedding and I bet on the day he will think you look lovely and want you to wear the dress of your dreams, yellow or not.

Oh, and i'd have words with the person who told him this!!

I wouldn't worry - what he is imagining and what he actually sees on the day are most likely to be miles apart!

My h2b has said he doesn't like big dresses - not sure if you've seen mine, but its quite big!

He said he doesn't like veils - I'm wearing one

He has said he doesn't like pearls - pearl tiara and jewellery!

And when I brought a petticoat/hoop home from work he said - I hope you're not wearing one of those! - I am!!

thanks but i have been looking on ebay at some very colse to mine that he has seen so its not he is thinking belle yellow.

cant have words as have told everyone she is wrong and that she saw me trying on a yellow dress but i didn't buy it. but i really wish i could. x

 this is the one H2B loves.

On the day it won't matter what colour your dress is. Tbh he probably won't even notice because he will be too nervous!

If you love your dress, stick with it!

I havn't seen your dress yet, but I bet it's gorgeous. One of my brides from 2008 had a pink dress, and a few weeks before the wedding, her fiance teased her about the possibility she may have gone for a pink dress. She even had the cake topper designed to look like her dress, and had to hide it from him until the wedding day.  It was her dream dress, and I honestly can't imagine her in anything else. So I would honestly go with your gut, if the yellow dress makes you feel amazing, and the white ones felt more like a uniform that you are expected to wear,, go with what makes you feel amazing. On the day, all he's going to care about is that you are becoming his wife :)

Best of luck,

Teri

p.s. Love your name, ;)

er... no, you CAN have words with her.

How DARE she tell people what she saw or thinks!  If she saw you trying on a wedding dress then she still had no right to declare to others what she saw (and shes obviously doing it in a spiteful 'omg' manner.....)  

doesnt matter if you told people that shes wrong in what she says, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW SHE WAS IN THE WRONG FOR SAYING IT!

Next time your h2b mentions the colour dress, just sigh and say 'its red actually!' and storm off....lol in a mock huff.  if he makes a fuss about a coloured dress then perhaps you might want to change....if he thinks reds okay then........ ummm....  ok ive ran out of plan B.....

but men do have ideals but its that moment when you appear looking totally gorgeous, that matters!!

Teri_M:

I havn't seen your dress yet, but I bet it's gorgeous. One of my brides from 2008 had a pink dress, and a few weeks before the wedding, her fiance teased her about the possibility she may have gone for a pink dress. She even had the cake topper designed to look like her dress, and had to hide it from him until the wedding day.  It was her dream dress, and I honestly can't imagine her in anything else. So I would honestly go with your gut, if the yellow dress makes you feel amazing, and the white ones felt more like a uniform that you are expected to wear,, go with what makes you feel amazing. On the day, all he's going to care about is that you are becoming his wife :)

Best of luck,

Teri

p.s. Love your name, ;)

 

Teri my dress is here http://www.hitched.co.uk/Chat/forums/t/150496.aspx?PageIndex=2 and love your name as well ;)

i'm so angry for you i want to go have words with her!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'd tell her to keep her stupid mouth shut regardless of if you bought it or not what kind of cow would even speak to your OH about your wedding dress? its so mean.

i'm sorry you feel like that as you should feel beautiful on your day and your OH seems to have lost his sensitivity bone.  men are rubbish at shopping, I wouldn't take fashion advise from my OH (he's useless!!!)

i don't have any ideas but  its not like he is Vera Wang, blokes don't have a clue about wedding dresses (i'd be worried if they did) if you love the dress i'd stick with it and don't mention it or leave any history regarding it on the computer.  this is exactly why men shouldn't see the dress before the big day because they are bound to say something stupid, they need pictures to understand things and when you walk down the aisle all made up on your big day he'll get the picture of how beautiful you'll look in your yellow dress and it won't matter about the colour because you'll look fab and he'll be thinking how bloody lucky he is to have you!!!!

teeheeyoucrazyguys!:

er... no, you CAN have words with her.

How DARE she tell people what she saw or thinks!  If she saw you trying on a wedding dress then she still had no right to declare to others what she saw (and shes obviously doing it in a spiteful 'omg' manner.....)  

doesnt matter if you told people that shes wrong in what she says, SHE NEEDS TO KNOW SHE WAS IN THE WRONG FOR SAYING IT!

Next time your h2b mentions the colour dress, just sigh and say 'its red actually!' and storm off....lol in a mock huff.  if he makes a fuss about a coloured dress then perhaps you might want to change....if he thinks reds okay then........ ummm....  ok ive ran out of plan B.....

but men do have ideals but its that moment when you appear looking totally gorgeous, that matters!!

Teehee i love you lol she told H2B's sister last year and then she told H2B's mum and dad then they asked me about it in front of H2B this was back in oct i think i dont see this girl that told on me but i di have to stop my made of honer from going to try and find her to punch. lol

I agree with the girls on here, you should wear the dress you've fallen in love with.  He will completely change his mind about yellow dresses once he sees you in it (I've seen the pic, it's brill!) and he'll love you in it because it makes you feel amazing.

If you change it for him, then you'll spend the rest of your time until the wedding trying to guess what HE thinks he wants, which you'll never match, unless you get him to choose the dress himself (bad idea, if he's like most men I know).

He has fallen in love with YOU remember, with all your 'yellow dress quirks' (my H2B has resigned himself to a bizarre wedding) and he will love that you feel great in that dress.

And yeah, find the blabbermouth and give her what for

Wow! Terianna, here's my personal opinion,, it's stunning on you. It's beautiful and yet sexy too. I love the colour, and the detailing on the bodice. My professional opinion as a photographer, it's going to look brilliant in photos. Be sure to take something of that colour with you if/when you do a make up trial.  Wish you lived near me, I'd be tripping over myself to be your photographer :)  He will take one look at you, and be blown away.

Whoever told him anything at all about dresses should be given a real spank. That just is so wrong, and petty.

Hugs,

Teri

My H said a lot that he didn't like sparkly dresses and expected me to be in a plain dress. Then I showed him the colour of cravet that would match and he said 'no chance that looks like baby sick'. I was nearly in tears in the kilt shop and didn't know what to do, where to look or what to say back.

Don't know if you have seen my dress but it's champagne/gold and mega sparkly

I loved it and so did he on the day. Dresses always look different when they are on so I wouldn't worry. You need to wear something you like and are comfortable with.

x

I have seen your dress and you look fantastic in it. I'm sure your h2b is thinking banana or a bowl of custard. Stick with your dress he will love it.

As for your so called friend, you should have let your m/h go and punch her lights out. I'm not a violent woman but she went far to far xx