Thanks ladies, i think i just was expecting the big emotional bit when put it on, but it didn't happen and it made me feel quite upset. I have been a bit low for a few days so maybe it's just that.
Because my wedding is New Years eve i thought it was something just that little bit different. My OH definatly wont be expecting any colour on dress.
A really big thanks to you all you've made me feel sooooo much better (was also worrying about looking mutton what with it being second marriage and not a million miles from 40's)
P.S. the trim is midnight blue, although in pics it really does look black