** Saturday 2nd Trimesters **

Morning Lovelies! 

The dreamfeed with Jack is keeping him in his cot for the night, but we were still up early - 5.30am, which isn't as early as it has been!  Hopefully, we might be able to tweak his bedtime and dreamfeed bottle to extend this more.  

I kept up my biscuit obssession yesterday - even Jack knows I like my biscuits as he passed me one of his when I was having a cup of tea yesterday morning!  Ooooops!  Must eat more healthily in front of him!  Apart from eating lots of biscuits I am plodding along just fine - definately getting more tired and achey, but I'm getting nearer to the 3rd tri so expect this.  I'm just trying to keep how much I do in check, but also not become too lazy.  I walked to the Post Office and back yesterday- about 35mins gentle walk -  and that was enough!  Want to keep up a gentle walking otherwise I can see myself becoming unfit and having no stamina for labour! 

We are hoping to go to the Lake District today and may stop at H's Aunt and Uncles place (they have a little flat for when they aren't in France).  We've not stayed overnight anywhere with Jack, so it'll be interesting to see how he manages in his travel cot - bet we end up co-sleeping!  I also not sure how childproof the place is - think we need to get Jack practising his walking and wear him out during the day!  Looking forward to a nice family day out and night away - we're not having a holiday this year, so this is as close as we'll get to getting away. 

I'm finding all the sad news on Hitched hard at the moment and having to work at not letting myself become really upset or becoming too scared that something might go wrong for me.  I'm sure I am not the only one feeling like this.  My heart goes out to those that have suffered loss and most recently ATG.  I can't even begin to imagine how you deal with such terrible news.  Sorry for being a bit down, but I am pretty certain that recent news on here must have affected us all, not least those of us actually pregnant at the moment. 

Hope everyone has nice plans for the weekend, 

Wren 26+3 x (Remind me, when do I move up to big class?!  Is it 27+1?)

Morning!

Wren - knew you'd be on here nice and early!  Glad Jack's staying in his cot through the night. 

And I totally understand what you mean.  It breaks my heart to think of what ATG must be going through at the moment.  My daughter was born very ill and we lost her at 13 months but we were encouraged to have another baby as all the specialists kept telling us that, unfortunately, she was just unlucky.  Mr K and I try to maintain a sense of perspective and realise that thousands of women have normal pregnancies and normal births and normal babies.  It's just hard sometimes.    Do you think it's because we're a concentrated group on here?  I don't mean that to sound hard but in real life we're just a small percentage of pregnant woman/mothers.  Am I waffling (and offending) because I've been up since 6:30?  Apologies if I am.  xx

kwango - will have to be quick as I'm off out soon.  Sorry about your daughter.  I was thinking about it all last night and did think that there seems to be a high number of losses etc on her, but then realised that it is a concentrated group of 200-300+ women, a lot of whom are pregnant and therefore not representational of the population, if that makes sense.  I know what you are saying - difficult to explain and discuss it without the fear of causing more upset or belittling those that have experienced loss.  

Hi Wren and Kwango - i'm not usually up this early on a saturday but am off to devon in a bit for my best friends baby's christening (and its a long drive from hertfordshire!).

I also have found the sad news on here recently quite hard to deal with at the moment and with my 20 week scan in less than 2 weeks ATG's news has really scared me - i'm a worrier anyway but now i'm even worse esp since i haven't even felt any movements yet and don't have much of a bump. Its taken us so long to get here (2 years of ttcing and lots of tests) that i can't help that worry about every little thing. I like you said i'm trying to keep perspective and yes as you say kwango i think its just that we are a concentrated group of people on here - if we weren't we would probably only know of very few, if any, people that have been through the heart breaking things that people have on here recently. for your daughter too, that sounds like any awful time for your and your H.

xxx

 

Morning girls

I too am finding it hard at the moment. Life can be so cruel and my heart goes out to ATG - I woke up this morning thinking about her. HItched is a wonderful place for support though and although I think it does concentrate the huge highs and deep lows of pregnancy and having a family, it is important for us to support each other and focus on the positives too. I am becoming a really anxious person since I found out I was pregnant and it is getting worse - I work in a hospital and I suppose I only see things that go wrong if you like so I seem to always be anxious that the worst will happen with this - despite the fact that I am a very upbeat person usually (despite my line of work!)

Wren - Glad that the wee one had a better night - I always open BT and find your name at the top of this thread.

Kwango - I hope that your pregnancy is smooth sailing x

As for me, I am up as I couldn't sleep very well again - I feel large and cumbersome. Difficult to turn in bed and I'm only 25weeks - I think I am in for a shock in the coming weeks! H and I are off shopping for baby things - have a strict schedule (he is delighted about that I'm sure!). Bizarrely I'm going for a facial in the afternoon - was given a spa voucher for my 30th but was so ill with the preganancy that I have not been able to use it. It runs out next week so I took my chance so I will be all sparkly and hopefully it will help my blotchy pregnancy skin. Off to friends for dinner tonight too. Busy day!

Keep well girls and take care

Fx

Knew I'd miss someone

Hi Goldfish - it's hard to keep reassured but as kwango said, most pregnancies are smooth sailing so the odds are in our favour. I wasn't offered a 20 week scan in my area and am now 25 weeks. The kicks are reassuring however and I'm sure you'll scan will be a great experience and wonderful to see how much the wee one has grown.

x

Thanks girls - I didn't want to offend or upset anyone

Wren - forgot to say, have a lovely weekend.  Hope Jack sleeps well in his travel cot.   

Goldfish - have a lovely weekend at the christening.  It's supposed to be glorious weather. 

Fishtree - have fun shopping - hope H doesn't get distracted from the schedule!    And enjoy the facial - I could do with one of those as I seem to have had a pregnancy breakout! 

Morning ladies, I too am finding it very hard with all the sad news on here at the mo, I think hitched is a wonderful place full of knowledge and advice but it is also a place of realism and it certainly doesn't shield you from the sadness that some people have to go through. I think everyone dealing with a loss is so very very brave and I pray I never have to find out if I would be brave too as I'm not sure I would. My heart goes out to them all x On a brighter note it's my cousins wedding today, really looking forward to it, the sun is shining so it should be a good day, it will be a little sad though as it's the first time we've all been together since my grandma died and the wedding is in the same church as her funeral, but I know she'll be looking down on us all with a smile! Babywise all is good, baby been a bit quiter the last few days but I think it had a bit of a burst of energy earlier in the week so it's probably recovering! Hope you all have lovely weekends, Claire 26+4

Morning All

Wren - up early again, what will we do when you garduate to the 3rd tri, who will start us off Your family day and night away sounds absolutely lovely, and the weather is starting off quite well here (Derbyshire) so hopfully the same is true up in the Lakes.

I think you are right about the recent sad news on here, I think we are all feeling it (I keep dreaming about it all) and yes we are a concentrated group. It makes me feel so very grateful for what I have at the moment, and am trying to keep in perspective that my pregnancy is a different one and all looks well so far. Fingers crossed to everyone for healthy pregnancies and muhc love to all those who are going through heartbreak at the moment.

kwango - I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter, most certainly you are not offending

goldfish - I hope you have a lovely day in Devon, sounds lovely

fishtree - I am struuggling with sleep too and am exhausted this morning. We have a new mattress coming on Monday thankfully as that is a big part of our problem. It sounds like you have a lovely day ahead of you, enjoy it all, I'll look forward to hearing an update.

GED - I find that Monkey also has quieter days, and I often wonder where on earth it burrows off to for periods of time. Other days s/he  is back with a vengeance, and was dancing away merrily at 6am this morning

As for me, am absolutely shattered today. Didn't sleep well again last night. Mattress still causing us problems, but also my best friend was taken into hospital last night to be induced at 38 weeks due to Obstetric Cholestasis and I was waiting to hear the news. Sounds like things haven't even really started off yet though so we might be in for a bit of a wait. Nice to have some exciting news to look forward to.

Hope you all (and all laters and lurkers) have really lovely weekends.

smarties x

ETA I shall be testing out the Hitched flapjack recipe this afternoon

Morning!

Its been ages since I was on here, I'm getting really lazy in the holidays!

Wren - hope you have a good time at the lakes

Kwango - Sorry to hear about your daughter. x

Goldfish - I'm a worrier as well! I know I shouldn't but I do google to much and scare myself!

Fishtree - I can't sleep either! Either through the freeky dreams or the constant need to pee every hour!

GED - hope you have a good time at the wedding!

As for me I'm ok, fully relaxed after 3 weeks off work, maybe a litle too relaxed, think I'm just getting lazy!  I went shopping with my mum yesterday for a pram as she is very generously giving us some money towards it.  I fell in love with a silver cross, I think its called linear?.  Also went to look at cots, we went to mothercare and the one I wanted felt a bit 'flimsy' according to my mum, so now I have no clue as there is too much choise! Have you all got everything you need?I was trying to get it all in the hols but think I'll just end up faffing!  Anyways, going to pick up a picture that I had framed for H today.  Its our 1 year anniversay on Monday!

Bex 25 +5  

Morning

Wren- Have a lovely time at the lake district. One of my best friends lives there its beautiful.

Kwango- Im sorry to hear about your daughter.

Goldfish- I didnt realise you were in Herts as well

Fishtree- Enjoy your facial i could do with a day of pampering.

GED- Enjoy the wedding, im sure your Grandma will be smiling down on you all today.

Smarties- I was like that when they took my SIL in i had a dreadful nights sleep for 2 nights! Hope you get that phone call today!

Like everybody else ive found the past few days upsetting i think its hard as well as 2 of the girls were at the same stages as us and you get to know people if that makes sense?

Well nothing to update on me personally. my bump is feeling a bit uncomfortable at the moment, no pain or anything just uncomfortable and its tiny at the minute so am dreading what it will be like when im huge!

Do all of you guys have PPs? I was thinking the other day i'd like a PP but all the people i "know" are due around the same time as me, before or shortly after so its cutting it a bit fine!

Michelle

22+5

Morning,

I think what Me Shell says is right - when awful things happen to Mums and babies that a)we know (even in an internet friend way) and b) are at the same stage as us, it's seems even more upsetting and hard not to think about what could happen to you. I know I have had more than a few 'there but for the grace of God I go' moments in the last few days.

I'm not going to attempt personals today (lazy, sorry!).  I had a shockingly bad sleep last night and seem to have eaten something which didn't agree when me last night and my stomach is giving me gip, so I'm off to lie down and veg out a bit.

I'm sending out extra large virtual hugs for all of you today, especially ATG.  Have a fab weekend, whatever you are doing.

Hi everyone - havent been on for a while but have been lurking.  Must admit - all the sad news is heartbreaking and my heart goes out to them and their families.  My scan is in a couple of weeks so im getting quite nervous. 

Im 19 + 1 today and getting lots of kicks so thats reassuring.  Still only put on 3lbs though but read in the baby book that baby only weights 7oz so that reassured me. Im a size 16 anyway so husband thinks cos ive been eating really healthily that i probably have lost some weight initially due to that.  

Not sure if anyone has used it but the cow and gate website has a "live chat" with a midwife type person on there.  Ive asked about my lack of weight gain which they said was normal so it really reassured me!  

Going to have a chilled out day today and relax.  We saw the film "Knowing" last night - I then had nightmares!  Plus my sense of smell is in overdrive and everything smells stale - consequently I have all the windows and the door open!  My husband thinks im going mad!

Hello to everyone! and everyone on later

x

Morning all

Would do personals, but am feeling a bit delicate after throwing up again. I hate being sick, surely at 21 weeks this should have gone by now

I'm another one who can't help but think about what everyone has been going through on here. My heart goes out to all of them, I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be to have to say goodbye to your baby, I know how attached I am to my bump already and the thought of something going wrong terrifies the life out of me. H lost his little brother when he was a few days old, due to hospital negligence and because of this H has been really nervous about this whole pregnancy thing and I've been telling him that its so rare for things like that to happen and he shouldn't worry. Now it's me that is worrying and I don't know how to tell him it's all definitely going to be okay when some people on here have had to suffer so much heartbreak lately.

Kwango, I'm sending special hugs to you and also to ATG if you're reading today, I wish I could take away some of your pain

 

On a lighter note, H made me chilli con carne last night and Gilbert either loves it or hates it, but he was kicking about in there after I'd eaten it!

DDL 21+1

Morning ladies.

Another one here who is feeling the sadness on Hitched and wishing I could do something to take the pain away from those concerned. Sending special to all who feel they need them.  I can't imagine what they must be going through.

Will attempt personals today - 

Wren - hope you have a lovely time at the Lakes. You certainly have the weather for it!

Kwango - and I totally get what you are saying.

fishtree - enjoy your scheduled shopping trip!

GED - have fun at the wedding and you are anotehr that will be deserting us soon for the 3rd tri!

smarties - hope you get a better nights sleep tonight and get some news on your friend.

bex - I have a few sleepsuits and a moses basket - I am sooo unorganised! Happy anniversary for Monday!

MeShell  - hope you feel a bit brighter soon. I read yesterday you were feeling a bit 'meh' so have a . And no I don't have a PP - I'm in the same boat as you as everyone I sort of 'know' on here is due at around the same time! Plus I rarely post outside of the tri threads so people would probably go "Kata - who?"

mixie - hope you feel better soon lovely.

lmh - I'm another who hasn't really out on weight. I have only just really started in maternity clothes at 5 months! Your super nose made me giggle though!

DDL - Have a for you and your H. I hope you both feel brighter and a little more positive soon although I know it must be difficult.

 

Nothing muchly going on here. It's mine and H's 4 year anniversary today and our 1st wedding anniversary next Saturday so we are having a chilled out weekend of just doing nothing but enjoying each others company. We are going out to our favourite restaurant next week and having a snuggly film watching evening tonight.

Doozer has been having a good kick about and seems to responding to Mr K's voice now - when we are in bed he always wriggles over to the side that Mr K is on which makes it very uncomfortable for me!

Hope everyone has a lovely day today and to those that need them.

 

Katamari 23+2 xx