Feeling down today. Trying to get my head around this pregnancy

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• 11-Sep-2010 9:48

  Feeling down today. Trying to get my head around this pregnancy

  Hold my hand Joined on 05-Sep-2010 Posts 6	Contact I don't know what's wrong with me.  I really want this pregnancy and I really want it to work so why have I got so many doubts about it being the right thing?  I can't seem to get my head around it at all.  I still think the shock hasn't worn off.  What is wrong with me?  I feel so guilty.  I keep thinking that the baby will think I don't love it or want it.  I could cry.

• 11-Sep-2010 10:20

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  Hepburn Joined on 01-May-2007 United Kingdom Posts 15,635

  Contact I'd imagine you're still in shock lovely. You'll get over the surprise over the coming weeks and begin to enjoy the pregnancy. Dont feel guilty, there us nothing wrong with feeling the way you do and it doesn't mean the baby will feel unloved or unwanted when it arrives. It's just going to take a bit of time to get your head around things. We're here if you want to talk xxx <a href="http://lilypie.com/"><img src="http://lbdf.lilypie.com/ZiOZ.png" width="400" height="80" border="0" alt="Lilypie Pregnancy tickers" /></a>

• 11-Sep-2010 11:02

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  Spamboule Joined on 23-Sep-2007 United Kingdom Posts 5,924	Contact Hepburn: I'd imagine you're still in shock lovely. You'll get over the surprise over the coming weeks and begin to enjoy the pregnancy. Dont feel guilty, there us nothing wrong with feeling the way you do and it doesn't mean the baby will feel unloved or unwanted when it arrives. It's just going to take a bit of time to get your head around things. We're here if you want to talk xxx WSS

• 11-Sep-2010 11:30

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  smarties Joined on 01-Jul-2004 United Kingdom Posts 8,534	Contact Absolutely WHepS - a planned pregnancy is a shock, nevermind an unplanned one, so give yourself some time to come to terms with it. Xx

• 11-Sep-2010 11:45

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  slightlymad Joined on 11-Aug-2009 Posts 15,317	Contact WeeS It may take some time to come to terms with it and I am sure that your thoughts are perfectly natural. We are here if you need us.

• 11-Sep-2010 12:07

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  laylolil Joined on 29-Feb-2008 United Kingdom Posts 2,463

  Contact Have a hug lovely.. I know exactly how you feel. This pregnancy was unplanned (although I was not on the pill at the time so fully aware that it was possible) and I must admit that even now at nearly 37 weeks I still don't fully have my head around the idea. I also worried about the baby thinking I don't love it, I'm about as un-excited as you can get (but hoping this is more because it's my 2nd baby). BUT.. I KNOW I will love this baby just as much as my first as soon as it arrives and I'm sure I will cope just fine with it all.. and so will you!! Leo Henry - Aug 08 Martha Holli - Oct 10

• 11-Sep-2010 14:01

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  Hold my hand Joined on 05-Sep-2010 Posts 6

  Contact Thanks all for your kind words.  I think I just didn't expect this to happen so quickly.  Granted we weren't using contraception and of course that meant there was a chance of getting pregnant but we weren't 'trying' iyswim.  It was more a 'gearing up' for the real thing.  Although I suppose that means were weren't 'not trying' either which is why I am upset with myself as it is sounding as though I don't want this when I do.  I feel so confused right now.   Last time I was religiously counting my cycle and using opks and knowing when I ovulated etc.  I have no idea when this baby was conceived (although I have a vague idea now I have roughly worked out when my last period was).  I'm scared of things going wrong.  Absolutely terrified in fact.   Which is another reason why I am so upset for feeling this way.  Then I start thinking of how life is at the moment (good, very happy) and how this may change that and maybe it won't be a good thing but surely it will be a good thing because it is what OH and me both want.  I'm seriously confused.  I keep bursting into tears randomly.  I never thought I would feel this way.   I want to feel happy and elated and excited.  Not full of woe is me and negativity.

• 11-Sep-2010 17:41

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  Irgalite Joined on 08-Aug-2007 United Kingdom Posts 5,923	Contact Wls They I didn't think I'd love the baby, I was so against having him. It really wasn't until he was a few days old and the shock had worn off that I actually loved him and was happy he was here. I am sure once you have your wee cuddly newborn you will be over the moon.

• 11-Sep-2010 17:55

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  conanetta Joined on 11-Apr-2006 Sheffield Posts 6,668

  Contact Olivia was very much wanted and we were TTC when I got my BFP with her, but if I'm honest I spent the whole pregnancy on a complete rollercoaster of emotions. I'd worry about the effect on Charlotte, then feel hideously guilty that I was even having those thoughts.  I found being pregnant with my second baby such a different experience emotionally than being pregnant the first time.  There's so much more of a conflict of emotions involved. Now that Olivia is here, I feel ridiculous for ever having worried.  She fits in so wonderfully to our family, I love her so, so much (something else I worried about) and it was definitely the right thing to do.  I can't imagine her not being here, life is just as happy, if not happier as it was as a family of three.  It's madder and crazier, but there's twice as much love in the house.