Time out - is it OK in their cot?

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• 17-Mar-2010 21:45

  Time out - is it OK in their cot?

  Marmite Girl Joined on 19-Feb-2003 United Kingdom Posts 4,498

  Contact Max (20 months) has just moved up to the toddler room at nursery and has come home tired the past two days. This has triggered some crying and hitting from him, which saying no to just is not enough. The only safe place we have to put him to calm down is his cot. Everywhere else in the house there are toys or doors (he loves to open and close them or slam if he is upset). The stairs have a stairgate on which in effect is another door... Putting him in there tonight worked, he clamed down and gave his daddy a hug and a kiss afterwards but I am concerned that we will make his cot an unhappy place and effect his nap and sleep, which at the moment he loves. Any thoughts or experiences?

• 17-Mar-2010 22:00

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  pea in a pod Joined on 30-May-2007 United Kingdom Posts 3,002

  Contact firstly i read your post as in time out the magazine and i thought hmm why keep that in his cot- sorry i am very tired lol anyway we tend to put C (same age) in his play pen downstairs or cot upstairs for time out usually it is for minutes so i dont see it as a problem myself sometimes they just need space to calm down other than that at others houses we put him on a chair (sofa type not a dining chair) to chill he hates been touched/held etc if he is stropping it makes him worse

• 17-Mar-2010 22:01

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  mrshwl Joined on 19-Apr-2006 United Kingdom Posts 2,896

  Contact Have no idea if it is right or not, but I send t (26months) to bed if he is having a major paddy, to calm down. Well I take him there, put him and shut the door. He normally calms down instantly. I have only done it a handful of times in the last few months though, snd it hasn't effected his sleep yet. On a more day to day basis he normally lays on the floor face down anyway, or I get down to his level and try and cuddle him. T - feb 08. C - feb 10.

• 17-Mar-2010 22:05

  Re: Time out - is it OK in their cot?

  Marmite Girl Joined on 19-Feb-2003 United Kingdom Posts 4,498	Contact Thank you for replying. It worked putting in there to calm down tonight for a few minutes and no problem going to bed so hopefully we are doing the right thing.

• 17-Mar-2010 22:09

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  Marmite Girl Joined on 19-Feb-2003 United Kingdom Posts 4,498	Contact BTW Pea in a Pod, you have just given me and my husband a right good laugh at your initial thought about the title of my post. We both have tonsillitis and have had a rough week so far and laughter was just the tonic we needed. Thank you

• 17-Mar-2010 22:14

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  pea in a pod Joined on 30-May-2007 United Kingdom Posts 3,002

  Contact Marmite Girl: BTW Pea in a Pod, you have just given me and my husband a right good laugh at your initial thought about the title of my post. We both have tonsillitis and have had a rough week so far and laughter was just the tonic we needed. Thank you   tis no problem i have no idea why i thought it i have never read time out and the comedy is that i thought how odd they are asking this, turns out i am indeed the odd one! i am sorry that is it now my fault that when you are trying to be all serius and give time out you will be giggling away about putting baby to cot to read time out as punsishment! ps i sympathise with tonsilitus i had my tonsils out at 24 and still get it :(

• 18-Mar-2010 6:06

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  allymc Joined on 07-May-2006 United Kingdom Posts 3,324	Contact I have used Izzy's room on a couple of occasions for 'time out' but having flicked through a Supernanny book fairly recently she doesn't advise using the cot/ bedroom. Apparently it can set up negitive associations! HTH ]

• 18-Mar-2010 7:21

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  Sparkling Joined on 30-Jun-2004 United Kingdom Posts 23,190	Contact i have done as well because it's been the only safe place i could leave Eleanor. Yesterday it didn't work at all going to bed to calm down she just trashed her room.  I need a new strategy.

• 18-Mar-2010 7:44

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  expatgirl Joined on 25-Feb-2010 Northumberland Posts 146	Contact I'm in the same situation, and end up using the high chair. Again, not great because of potential negative connotations, but I figure I'd rather him out of his highchair than his bed... mum to W, June 2008 expecting a little brother or sister, early December 2010

• 18-Mar-2010 8:11

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  Noggin Joined on 23-Jun-2003 Herts Posts 2,049

  Contact I don't like sending K back to bed or to her bed if she's been naughty, as my Mum always said bed/bed time should be a nice, happy place not associated with being naughty and I tend to agree. K rarely lashes out but if she has been naughty we make her stand by the front door (which she hates) or we use distraction, like offering to read a story, do a puzzle together that sort of thing. - May 07 - August 09

• 18-Mar-2010 8:23

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  babybay24 Joined on 04-Mar-2004 United Kingdom Posts 2,511	Contact Isabelle is 2 at the weekend and I put her in her bed for time out and it works most of the time. I haven't done it for a while as carrying her upstairs and putting her in her cot is quite a task with a massive bump! If I tell her she's going in her cot she calms down straight away.