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  • Should I be worried? WWYD?

    Have been having shared care between hospital & community mwives. Today is first appt with Community mwives - I haven't seen or heard the baby since 12 week scan - I'm now 17 wks.
    Went to see today, anyway, and she couldn't find the heartbeat - she said the baby kept moving away from her. I didn't hear anything that sounded remotely like baby heartbeat, only my own. upshot = no heartbeat. I know it can be tricky at 17 weeks, but given how hard she was pushing and how long she tried for I would have expected SOMETHING.

    Did hear placenta blood rush noise
    Fundus is apparently right for dates

    Should I be worried? I was starting to get a bit anxious anyway, as have not felt any bumping about with this one - Evie bumped from about 20 weeks, fluttered from about 16. Scarlett fluttered from about 12, bumped from 16, and their placentas were both anterior - this one is posterior, so I thought it would be easier to feel?

    Am now debating whether to cause a big fuss and take myself off to the emergency clinic at Liverpool, or sit tight and fret?

    Thanks in advance. x WWYD, I guess?

  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    In all honesty I think the important issue is whether YOU are worried and you clearly are.

    I think in your situation I probably would think about visiting the emergency clinic.  However much you try and tell yourself not to worry you will

    Hope all is well Hug

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  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    If you're worried, call someone - whether it's the community MWs again, or a hospital.

    I'm sure the MW won't have been happy to send you home if she thought there was a problem, but ultimately it doesn't make sense for you to be left worrying - much better to make a nusiance of yourself (not that you would be!) and set your mind at ease, IMO.

     

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    Oooh congratulations LTP I didn't know your were pg!  Lovely news xxx

    Have you tried all the tricks to fell some flutters - cold drink/fizzy drink/lying down etc. etc.?  I think my instinct is that it's probably too early and maybe you could get a MW appt for the end of the week and try to hear the heartbeat again.

    BUT if you are really worried then yes, absolutely get seen.  It's their job, after all!

    Hope you feel something/see something/hear something soon xxx 

  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    I would go and get checked Hug

    In all likelihood, everything is fine. As you said, it's not unusual at 17 weeks not to hear a HB. Every baby is different, their movements are different, when you feel them is different. Mine have varied as early as 16w and as late as 24 weeks.

    Try not to panic, but if you're anything like me, I'd just end up sitting around getting myslef into a complete state and being up all night before going in first thing. Go now, and set your mind at rest Hug

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    If you are worried then you need to call someone. No idea how far the hospital is from you so could you call your doctors for a late appt as ask them to listen. My doctor always said they were more than happy to see me if I was ever concerned about something and not to wait to see the MW etc.

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    You poor thing, I can understand why you're fretting. I think it was awfully unfair of the MW to leave this decision to you to be perfectly honest. I think she ought to have been very forthright and came right out with (a) it's very early and I am entirely unconcerned or (b) I think we need to err on the side of caution and I'll make the referral now.

    I'm not entirely sure what I'd do in your shoes tbh. My instinct says that if you're worried of course you should go to the emergency clinic. However, as a mum of 2 young children I know that logisitcally that sort of trip can be a nightmare. So, my advice I guess is to absolutely go and get checked out, what I'd personally do is probably brush it under the carpet, bury my head in the sand and think that the MW would have known if anything was disastrously wrong and sit tight until the 20 week scan.

    Gosh, that's not much help is it? Like I said though, shame on the MW for leaving you with this dilemma.

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    Clearly you are worried so its worth going and getting it checked out.  At about the same time with Izzy they couldn't hear the heartbeat but I was jusst told that was tough and they would try and listen for it agian at the next appointment, didn't stop me worrying mind you.

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  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    Thanks for your replies all.

     

    Called Liverpool who were very nice & reassuring, and said it wasn't unusual not to be feeling anything and due to wrigglyness of 16/17 week old fetuses not unusual not to hear anything much either.

    I still have the option of going in and seeing someone if I like.  I might go tomorrow when the girls are at school/pre-school.

    Thanks again x

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    Glad you've had some reassurance Hug

    Don't hesitate to go and get checked if you continue to worry though; I lost count of the amount of times I went up to Labour Ward or the Day Assessment Ward, and everytime without fail, I was treated with respect, my concerns were taken seriously, and the midwives all said they'd FAR rather someone went in and 'wasted their time' with a false alarm, than the alternative.

     

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    I believe this is why very few midwives like to listen for the heart beat before 20 odd weeks, the baby is so tiny at 17 weeks it's easy to not be able to hear the heartbeat and induce panic in the mother.  My midwife only listened for the heartbeat from about 24 weeks.

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    macca:

    Glad you've had some reassurance Hug

    Don't hesitate to go and get checked if you continue to worry though; I lost count of the amount of times I went up to Labour Ward or the Day Assessment Ward, and everytime without fail, I was treated with respect, my concerns were taken seriously, and the midwives all said they'd FAR rather someone went in and 'wasted their time' with a false alarm, than the alternative.

     

     

    WSS.

    I recall rocking up at the DAU at 23 weeks as I'd not felt anything for ages when pg with Sadie. I had flutters at 14 and 17 weeks, then nothing. Read lots on interweb that I shouldn't worry until 24 weeks, but I couldn't hold out any longer. I was put on a trace (although was assured that it was still a bit early to pick much up) and we saw lots of movements traced on the paper thingy, but I'd felt none of them.

    I was sent home with a kiss on the forehead, orders to eat sweets, drink cold drinks and call them if I was worried about anything at all. (even without my history the same advice would have been given, I'm sure. Although perhaps without the kisses...)

    Mum to Oscar Angel 17/4/07 - 20/4/07   &   Sadie  born 10/8/08 (4 weeks early)

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    Wave LTP - congratulations by the way.

    I would also get checked out if it is worrying you, there's nothing else that will put you at ease.  I mainly wanted to say not to worry about the moevement side though.  I'm currently carrying my 3rd and the movement this time was far later than with either my first or scond.  I hadn't felt anything by my 20 wek scan this time and yet had very early with my other two - about 16 and 14 weeks.  this was also true of my friend who is pg at the same time - so thankfully we had someone on hand to discuss this with.  I keep meaning to post a question about this actually as i seems so odd as the second one was felt earlier.

    hth,

    Mycroft

  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    Just seen this, sorry. xx If I had known yesterday, I wold have offered to keep you company.

     

    I hope you get checked and can put your mind at rest. Hug

  • Re: Should I be worried? WWYD?

    Try not to worry my lovely. Harry fluttered a lot later than Lucy - about 20 weeks I think. I think the fact that there was lots of gushing placenta noise was a hugely important thing no?

    Could you push for another appointment just to ease your mind? When's your next MW appt?

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