Am i being unreasonable? OH's ex at wedding!

Hey Mrs Bass,

I dont think you are being stupid at all.  If i was in the same situation I would be the same.  Plus the fact that neither her or her partner are particularly good friends with your OH, I cant see why you would bother making yourself feel uncomfortable with no gain!

I say speak to your OH and calmly expain how you feel, I am sure he will understand and not be that bothered anyway.

As a guy, I don't see anything of any concern. However you could create an issue from a non issue.

Putting my girlie hat on, (I love pink), I can sympathise with you. But she has kids, is married, has her own life. Kids especially change peoples lives and I would be very surprised if there was anything at all latent there anymore.

The fact your OH doesn't really speak to him these days is more of a reason not to invite them. Weddings are expensive, less is always more.

If it was me i'de tell her to gtf! If she is there and the thought of her being there bothers you...obviously it wil on your big day and thats not what you want! I personally would never, under any circumstances, have one of his ex's at the wedding simply because it would be awkward and they arent friends anyway :L lol x

I think it's a little ott to be honest.

On the night time do we've got one of my h2b's ex's attending, with her partner. However, i understand that h2b as moved on, she is from his past (and in my opinion a bit of a slapper anyway lol) but it's not going to ruin my day. just because she'll be there for a time, does not mean that i have to sit all night and socialise with her.

Your oh has clearly moved on, and i wouldn't let the attendance of an ex put a downer on your day. Your oh is there to marry you, and thats what you need to not lose sight of :) xx