Stranger Danger (sens)

Thank you everyone. I appreciate everyone's comments.

WEES.  It sounds like what happened to her was pretty much a non event, hence her reaction and playing it down.  I'm sorry to hear there is a reason why it makes you so anxious x

Mrs BB:

ML - yes there' s a reason... But it's not her fault is it. I need to sort myself out.
Re her lag gin behind, Mrs A assured me she was at the back of the line but 'it was packed there' Hmmm.

I'm sorry to hear there is a reason and send you massive hugs.xxx

It does still sound as if the school had it under control..... As others have said it would be a real shame to pass this anxiety onto your daughter... I know my mum had lots of anxieties and I really wish I was a bit more relaxed x

 

Lorz11:

Hi,

 

I am normally more of a lurker on here but can I just give you my opinion as a teacher and not a parent-as I havent got children yet!

 

I wouldn't be too hard on yourself at your reaction as you reacted in shock from your daughters turn of events-which is completely natural.

 

From a teachers view when arranging and carrying out school visits the stress and planning involved is huge.  We are responsible for the children above all other adults there.  We have to complete the health and safety/danger/etc and identify all risks.  When your daughter was 'lagging behind', this could be a step behind a teacher and not as far behind as we all imagine.  The children are counted constantly and risks are not taken-the childrens safety is paramount-if we think safety is being put at risk the visit will be stopped.  Adding to that when visits are taken to busier areas it means that the children are more likely to bump into people-I took my class of 5 year olds to the zoo last year and trying to get children to look where they are going is the most difficult part!

 

School visits are a major part of childrens learning however the most stressful part of the job-I dont sleep for days before and never relax until Im home safely!

 

My concern here is if your child was bumped then as the teacher I would have infomred you to prevent a situation arising.

 

However I agree about speaking to your school and identifying your concerns about stranger danger as that will be covered year in year out!

 

I hope this makes sense-I've got a bug so my head hurts! lol x

 

 

 

 

 

 

I echo this. I hate hate hate taking my children on school trips and my class are older - 10/11 year olds. They can be worse in a way as they think that they know it all plus I have the Moderate Learning Difficulties children with me as (low IQs) who are older but not streetwise at all. The school should ensure the correct adult/child ratio and space them out accordingly with the children. We take every precaution possible and I agree that the teacher should have pre-empted what happened by letting you know but it sounds like she had her hands full.

I'm sorry that there is a reason behind how you feel but you need to address that rather then project onto your daughter. I'm glad all is safe for her and you now.

Lorz11 - I have a trip on Friday and am dreading it. Oh and the forms!!!

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Thanks to the teachers for your perspective.

I have a  trip on Friday and am dreading it. Oh and the forms!!!

 

You poor thing! I have sleepless nights from the minute the letter goes to the parents until the visit is over and they all go home again!

Howevere, it is never as bad as I think and we always end up having a great time! My last visit in a year 3/4 class was a very small class only 10 chn from a small village school-we went to the British museum London, by train & underground!!!! Stressed the whole time!

Enjoy, Im sure you'll have a great time xx

No idea why that was such a large post! sorry!x

Angeldust:

WEES.  It sounds like what happened to her was pretty much a non event, hence her reaction and playing it down.  I'm sorry to hear there is a reason why it makes you so anxious x

WAS, but I am honestly horrified at your reaction and feel sorry for your daughter.

My seven year old has done some spectacularly stupid things over the years but to scream at him like you say you screamed at your daughter - the mind boggles. I'm shocked that she made a card apologising to you - I don't think she had anything to apologise for. 

 

I understand that people worry and I understand that if something bad happens to us it colours the way we see and feel about things, and I am sorry that you have had that experience, but I'm afraid I feel like I need to say that the way you reacted to your daughter is not okay.

She's 8. She won't understand that there might have been a threat, and to be honest it doesn't really sound like there was one. What she will remember however, is that her mummy screamed at her and she won't understand why.

I think it would be a good idea for you to try to deal with whatever is causing you such upset and worrying you about your daughter, because as she gets older there will only be more situations for you to worry about, and you will cause yourself and your daughter more upset by not trying to address it as soon as you can.

I don't mean to belittle anything you have been through, but do feel strongly that it is important for your daughter and for you that you do something about it.

Katamari - of course she didn't have anything to apologise for! You are right. The irony is she is the most precious thing and it was borne from trying to protect her. I phoned mum just know to mention that someone was 'horrified' I shouted at my daughter and what I said. She actually said I didn't even shout, or say the f word! She thinks I must've wanted to say that and it's what I said in my mind. But it's still horrible to think. Thank you for your feedback anyway. I am going to consider very carefully your comments.

Smarties. - I do have to deal with it but not sure what to try next. Sure as hell feeling right now I'd better find something! Thanks for your honesty.