Blimey, congratulations.
I wouldn't worry too much about the bonding, I didn't see C properly for 24 hours as he was transfered to a different hospital after he was born (13 weeks prem), and couldn't hold him until he was 3 weeks, but you bond through other ways, like stroking them through the portholes in the incubator etc. You'll still feel that rush of love for her, even though you never got to hold her straight away.
I know what a shock it is, and also how scary. At least there are a fair few ladies on here who had prems, so you'll never be short of advice or people to talk to about it. xx