when do you think the bitterness will stop?

i just keep thinking why?  on tuesday the waiting room was full to bursting, people were standing as there was no seats left, so out of all those people why did they choose us for this to happen to? not that im wishing it on anyone else but what makes us fill the criteria.

iv been on folic acid since feb just incase i got pregnant, i havent drank since our BFP and i dont smoke or take drugs and i havent eaten anything that you arent supposed to, so why is this happening.

we arent bad people, yes i know i rant about MIL regularly but other than that i wouldnt say we were bad people.  i left the antenatal clinic yesterday to walk past of heavily pregnant women all stood outside smoking, it jsut makes me really upset. 

o and also we were cuddling and sobbing in the waiting room yesterday and a woman came up to us and asked if we had change for the scan picture mahcine,  i mean id never dream of approaching a couple who are clearly upset, yes if it was someone on their own, but only to ask if they needed anything.

o and my friend phoned last night, i know she was meaning well and probably just doesnt know what to say, but she said that maybe this LO is a girl and i just cant carry girls and that everything happens for a reason, well id love to know what the reason for this happening is.

i didnt think things could get worse after L's birth, but iv obviously been proven wrong.

anyway please feel free to ignore this rant, i just had to post here as i cant keep ranting to H.

xxc

  none of this is fair, I really wish it wasn't happening.  The feelings you describe are similar to those when you are DTC, there will always people that just dont seem to appreciate what they've got.  I am always thinking of you.  Please take care xxx

Oh darling, i can totally understand you feeling this way - just doesn't seem fair

I have no answers lovely. Life is a b!tch sometimes. One of the hardest things to overcome are the whys and what if's.

Oh CP, I really have no answers, and I'm sure if you did have them then it may make it easier to understand. Life can be so cruel.

Oh CP what can I say.  Sh1t things happen to good people, it's unfair but just a sad fact of life. Grr to your friend though, what a bl00dy stupid and insensitive thing to say x

There are no words - an inadequate hug and thinking of you both.  

CP to even be thinking when the bitterness will stop shows what wonderful strong person you are We aren't you but OH and I got upset on your behalf and I keep thinking of you and wish there was soemthing I could say or do and I just can't. Oh lovey

CP to even be thinking when the bitterness will stop shows what wonderful strong person you are We aren't you but OH and I got upset on your behalf and I keep thinking of you and wish there was soemthing I could say or do and I just can't. Oh lovey

Life is unfair, it truly is sometimes.  No one can say why these things happen and it's not fair that bad things happen to good people.

You are grieving, you are allowed to grieve for the child you have lost.  You are allowed to be bitter, you are allowed to feel any way you want to. 

I don't know when the bitterness will stop.  I still get annoyed at pregnant women who smoke.  I remember feeling the same as you after our m/c.  Why us?  I'd been living like a saint for months.  My heavily pg SIL smoked throughout her pregnancy and was drinking spirits on holiday in Spain.

It's not fair and there's usually no reason for it, it just is

I don't have the answers honey. I have a teeny tiny understanding of that bitterness. Like HavanaBaby, after our m/c's last year, I just felt surrounded by people who seemed to just take their pregnancies for granted.

It is so, so unfair and my thoughts continue to be with you and your H. Take care .x.

It isn't fair at all and people do come out with some really insensitive crap and you are allowed to feel bitter and as JB has said you are allowed to feel anything you like.

My only advice is in my experience when people say insensitive things don't dwell on them just accept they are either not particularly bright or they feel the need to comment and choose the wrong thing to say. 

Grieve as much as you need there are no set rules. Massive I really wish you weren't having to go through this.

xxx

oh CP - life is so unfair more often than not to those who don't deserve it. keep talking on here

Life really isn't fair, so many good people have horrible things like this happen to them.  I really wish there was something I could do or say to help you.  You continue to be in my thoughts x