When did you first spend a night away from your baby?

A is 7 months today (how?!) and i've not been away from him overnight yet - he is still bfing inc in the night when he wakes up. We have a wedding in newcastle in dec which is no children so we'll be leaving A with my mum.

I'm already worried about what if he needs feeding overnight and i'm not there - i know its ages away but i do worry!

L was 4 months and I went on my hen do. I was still BF exclusivey so just expressed.

My first night away from C will be on Saturday, he is 20 months! I just havent felt happy to do so until now! 

Niamh was two weeks old, I had kidney stones and was hospitalised.

I went to London in June, L was 8 months. I hated leaving her but had a good time.

Ours is likely to be in a month when G will be 11 months exactly. I was also worrying about feeding but I think we're coming to an end with BFing now anyway so not likely to be an issue.

I really wouldn't worry about it now, so much can and will change between now and then.

E is 11 months and I still haven't spent a night away from him yet.  He doesn't BF in the night now but he does first thing in the morning (at around 5.30am) so I wouldn't be able to leave him either for now (don't express as I could never get into a routine with it).

A may be different though?  Could you express do you think?

J was about 7 mths old when I went to my cousin's wedding, I went with my sister so left her with H for the night. By then she was FF so feeding was not an issue.

We are doing this next month (he will be almost 7 months). It's for a wedding and he will stay at home with my parents. I completely trust my Mum but I'm really really worried ATM about bottle rejection (he will take on from my H reluctantly for one feed but this will be 3, including one evening and one first thing in the morning). We don't have feeding in the night issues although I'm worried that with me not being here to put him to bed (coupled with possibly taking less from a bottle) it will result in night waking. We are going to do a dry run a few times - so with H giving him a bottle (EBM) before bed and then one the next morning (and me pumping like a maniac out of sight so he doesn't see me) just so we can be sure he will take it and we'll get my Mum to bath him and feed him when we next see them (BH weekend I think).

But like you Im worried. And this is partially our choice as we could have taken him but decided not to. I'm sticking with that decision as I know it is the right thing for all of us. But if things did go completely tits up (which my Mum has reassured me they won't) then we are only 10 miles away.

Do you live close to your Mum? Does A see her a lot? Can you practice beforehand - not overnight necessarily but at least getting her to feed him (assuming he'll take a bottle) and understand how you settled him etc.

L stayed over night at MILs when he was 11 months, but she lives 5 mins away and i picked him up at 7am as he was BF, so there really was no point in him staying. 

we then left him when he was 15 months and went to chester - which is about 45 mins drive away.  we left him for just under 24 hours.  i was fine when we were in chester but in the morning i jsut wanted to go and get him again,

i really want to go away for a night or 2 jsut me and H but i havent yet plucked up the courage to even think about the logistics

xxc

meant to add, A will be fine, jsut express a load of milk for over night, or overnight feeds may have reduced by then so it wont be as much of a worry.

We went to a wedding over night at the end of June last year so M was nearly 3 months.

She was FF'd and sleeping through by then so was fine. My Mum had her.

In fact, M didn't want to know me the next day when we came back. Only wanted cuddles with Nanny!

When she was 11m.  It was because when she was almost a year, H and I had a night away planned for our anniversary (arranged since she was 6m).  At this point Izzy would only feed in the night if she was teething or ill, but she was waking a lot in the night and we would usually co-sleep instead of trying to settle her.  She was absolutely fine, and my mum ended up just getting into the guest bed with her, pulling the travel cot to the side as a makeshift bed guard.

You said December, yes (sorry, can't see right now)?  That is lots of time, he could possibly stop feeding at night by the end of this month.  And if not, well, you can keep EBM in the fridge for 3 months, so you could start pumping in Sept and have plenty to leave with your mum by Dec. 

Can I suggest that you do a trial run a couple of weeks before hand?  This is what we did - we left her with my parents for a night 2 weeks before.  I'm really glad we did this as it reassured me that she and I could both cope apart - and it made it a little easier when we had to leave her for our "proper" night away.  The first time, I bf'ed her beforeI left and when my mum came up with her ff to take over I literally couldn't let her go, I just held her and sobbed.  The second time, it wasn't easy by any means but a lot more so than the first time, and meant our night away wasn't ruined by me worrying as much as I might have done. 

(Sorry, this has turned out really long!)

Isla is 9 months and I've not had a night away from her. In fact, the longest I've been away from her is 4 hours

She still wakes loads in the night and will only settle if given the boob, so there's no way I could leave her with anyone, even my H. I'm sure things will be different by December, but it may be worth seeing if A takes a bottle so someone else can feed him

I haven't been away from G at all yet. In November, I may be out all night for work - I actually don't know what I am going to do and am getting in a bit of a pickle about it all atm. I'm sure A will be fine.