IAPBU H rant

I admit it, I am struggling. This past year has been the toughest of my life. S has been in hospital 7 times. He has his MRI brain scan this tues to see if he has epilepsy. Work is sh1te and putting me under huge pressure (not workload wise but in other areas). We've moved house twice again. We have no money. Our relationship is strained and now I've just crashed my car.

Anyway. Weds nights are my housework night as I refuse to waste a Sammy day cleaning. H does the ironing. That's the deal. I got in after waiting 1.5 hrs for the recovery truck to bring my car home. H went out and got pizzas. Nice of him (well, I expect it was as much for him as for me). I ate and then started the houswork. H was soaking in the bath so I put on that one year of marriage thing whilst I dusted, he came down and immediately went on the xbox. I cleaned the whole house top to bottom whilst he did nothing. He couldn't even be bothered to hang out the washing, clean off the poonami from S's carseat (he brought him home tonight) or anything. He just about moved off the bean bag long enough for me to hoover around him. He could tell I'm knackered. All he could say about the accident was be rude to me because when I callled him to pick up S, I was obviously upset and struggling to talk and he thought I meant I couldn't move as in was stuck in the car rather than couldn't move the car.

I really have had enough. I know so many people are in a much worse position than we are (particularly those close to us)but it just feels like nothing can go right this year. Surely we deserve a little bit of luck?!

Sorry, such a bloody self indulgent post but I have to vent occasionally!

No you're not BU

what is it with men and their bloody xboxes? thankfully M's broke last year and he's never had it fixed.

Could you agree that on housework night you both do a set amount of work? Ironing is fine but not if thats all he's doing esp not when you're working and looking after S!

You vent away lovely, you've had a tough time. It must be incredibly upsetting and stressful with S getting poorly so often.

Men are pretty thoughtless when we need them most,

I really hope things turn around for you, and that S's MRI scan gives you some good news.

xxx

Not BU. Typical male tendency to be thoughtless I'm afraid, think it's an inbuilt design fault.

You have coped so marvellously well with some really really tough times over the last year. You seem to keep smiling and coping with whatever life throws at you, and I for one am in awe of the amount of crap you have to deal with, and how you do so uncomplainingly (is that even a word?)

If I can do anything to help you out, please do shout - I have transport, wine and a good ear for listening whenever you need any of them...

Not BU. I'm impressed you've got him to agree to Housework Night. But if he's not going to stick to it, I personally think you've got two options.

1) Moan at him till he pulls his weight

or

2) Get a cleaner, and pay for it with cashback from the supoermarket so that you don't have to have the "we can't afford a cleaner" row.

Sounds like you've had a really horrid time of it and should be sat on the bean bag quaffing wine, not dusting round the x box! x x x Big hugs!

Remove the fuse from the x box plug and let's see how long it takes him to work out why it's not working!

Seriously though Carrie, you've had a horrible year. He should be pulling his weight much more.

I really hope things get better for you from now on.

x

It's not fair.  I hate that bad $hit happens to good people. You are not BU

You must be due a lottery win soon

Deffo not BU, I feel your pain.

WEES

Oh Carrie, you are one of the most amazing women I know and no wonder you are struggling, and lets face it H's are sometime useless and thoughtless.  I'm not sure how you keep so happy and calm through everything you have been through this year.  Just wanted you to know we are here and will do anything we can to help and I'm sending you a massive hug. x

What Johners said Carrie.

I'm also struggling with a thoughtless husband who thinks it's OK to go play while I slave over a hot stove/clear up after F etc. and we haven't had any of the additional stresses you've had.

You're an amazing woman Carrie but maybe it's time to start asking P to be more of a Superman to share Superwoman's work?

BoB x

WEES

You've had a really stressful year and have dealt with it absolutely amazingly. You cope so well and are always cheerful and supportive regardless of what you are going through yourself.

If I can do anything at all do let me know

XXX

Thanks everyone.

To be fair he does his fair share of childcare etc but last night just got to me. I really didn't want it to be a superwoman thread! but occasionally I need to let off steam.

Hopefully a night with the kleek will make me feel better tonight x