My first lurk on DW for ages, and what do I see? :(

Oh for goodness sake - I have not read the DW post and barely have the energy to keep up with this rubbish. Hitched has changed since I was first here in 2001 and that is natural and a good thing surely. What really annoys me is that members past and present seem to think they own a "place" and can therefore say what they want and feel they are so right/justified.

There are some hitchers and DWs that make me so angry because all they do is take. Communities like this are made from what people give and it annoys me that people think they have the right to think that what they are giving is always the law.

Pick somewhere and stay there or just use the forums as they are intended for. For help, support, friendship and advixe.

Not school yard one up manship.

Tilly, your advice is never unwanted or unwelcome-if that were true we wouldn't have come actively seeking it as in that thread. However, a comment or two was rather uncalled for in deciding that only "about three" hitchers were normal, and I replied in what I hoped was the same tone. We are all the same-mums or would-be mums just trying to do our best by our kids-and I don't think there's a need for comments about either contingent.

SnowflakeMum:

Tilly, your advice is never unwanted or unwelcome-if that were true we wouldn't have come actively seeking it as in that thread. However, a comment or two was rather uncalled for in deciding that only "about three" hitchers were normal, and I replied in what I hoped was the same tone. We are all the same-mums or would-be mums just trying to do our best by our kids-and I don't think there's a need for comments about either contingent.

Caterina - I have no idea how often you are over on DW but as someone who is there most days I can honestly say comments about PP are few and far between and particularly negative comments. There are often comments made about 'Who on the PP did this?' but that is inevitable when we have a shared history. And if you do think that all that is said over there is negative about here, then surely the sensible option is not to go over there?

I don't think this 'them and us' attitude helps anyone.

http://www.thedeadwood.co.uk/rache-zebra-hazel-etc-t40000.html

just thought this might set everything straight and hopefully we can all feel the love again

For goodness sake, Rache's post was tongue in cheek, but if you want to find a way to ensure people never come back this is probably it :laugh:

I understand why MMI posted initially- the threads were frustrating at the time she posted. I don't understand the fuss. It's certainly not making me feel I should spend any time here.