I know IABU but husband rant!

As title says, I know I am being unreasonable but I just need to get this out before I say something which will cause a row.

My H is currently building our extension with my dad. They are both engineers and are falling out a fair bit, because they disagree about things. I've pointed out to H that this puts me in a difficult position but he still vents at me a lot. He's also doing an OU course and is a pessimist by nature, as is his entire family.

Lately, everything just seems to be causing his problems, he sees the worst in everything and because he is a perfectionist, he really worries when he cannot get something absolutely right. I offer help at every opportunity, although I have lots to do myself and am also trying to care for J and rest myself as #2 is tiring me out a lot, but all I ever get is a very sullen defeatist answer, or he expects me to be psychic and just know what he wants without being told.

I've just offered him a cup of tea and got the most miserable 'yes please' ever, like the world was going to end tomorrow.

I'm also fed up of the extension taking over everything, to the point where I don't plan anything for weekends anymore as my plans always go out the window. I spend all weekend on my own with J, which is lovely but very draining. I want to help him but am at the point where I am struggling to get the motivation to help, as it doesn't seem to improve things for him and it never seems to be appreciated.

Anyway, best go and make that tea for them, at least I can make one for me and J too and chill for a bit. No need to reply, just had to vent somewhere and figured here was better than giving him a piece of my mind.

Nothing helpful to say but

Moody men eh?  I also live with a pessimist, so I sympathise.   Luckily, mines in bed at the moment, sleeping off his late shift.

Oh bless you. It must be horrid having all that building work going on. Your nesting will want your home to be tidy and all in the right place, and not turned upside down.

When is the extension due to be completed?

I hope you are getting yourself a cuppa and a biscuit too. Just shout if you want to meet up again soon. xx

Thanks all, am now sitting watching Sport Relief highlights with a cuppa and a big sticky cake, so feeling better!

Rusty, would be fab to meet up again soon, Easter holidays are coming up so I have two weeks off - would be good to arrange something then?

men! Can I have a rant too please?! My H got up at 9 but proclaimed he was still tired and went back to bed at 9.30 and is still there. This means sarah is napping on the sofa instead of her cot so i can't get on and do anything, partly because I don't want her to wake and roll off and partly because I'll end up waking her. H's bike is being MOTed next week and the exhaust needs welding. He now won't have time to do it today so will be doing it tomorrow so we won't get to spend any time as a family. This is the man who was saying last night he gets jealous of how much time I get to spend with sarah and the bond we have. He works damned hard in the week and I know he needs his sleep but its frustrating when my day has to go on hold to accomodate!!! Sorry to crash the thread! Hope you enjoy your cuppa!

Margot:

so I have two weeks off - would be good to arrange something then?

Excellent! Well, Sharrington and I are about most days. Mondays are mostly good for the others. Fridays good for Carrieg4now.

Hope for a sunny day and meet in a nice park so J can run about and we can picnic? I'll bring a chair for you!!!

Rusty the Clown:

Margot:

so I have two weeks off - would be good to arrange something then?

 

Excellent! Well, Sharrington and I are about most days. Mondays are mostly good for the others. Fridays good for Carrieg4now.

 

Hope for a sunny day and meet in a nice park so J can run about and we can picnic? I'll bring a chair for you!!!

 

Sounds fab, let's see what the forecast looks like a bit nearer the time!

Sorry that your H is being a bit of a pain. I know how frustrating it must be.

I want to help my H with stuff around the house that needs doing as he needs the motivation to get started but I'm in so much pain all I can do is lounge about in bed or on the latop or on the laptop in bed!

Huge hugs and I hope the Smithy Sketch and the cake helped.