PND/Depression sufferers - what do you think of this quote?

i think that's extreamly insensitive.

That would have confirmed what i thought I knew - that I was a rubbish mum & my daughter would hate me!

Awful actually.

I think it is very insensitive.  I spend a lot of my time worrying about whether the girls will pick up on my feelings and inherit my fears and phobias or start to feel they are somehow to blame for things etc and had I come across that quote whilst looking for advice or support I would probably have left home and left them with my husband (which I came close to a few times anyway)

Wow, that's hugely supportive isnt it?

I think I would have to contact them about that, it's a horrible thing to say when someone is struggling. As if it will magically make you feel ok... if anything it'd do the opposite as you'd try to 'struggle on', children can pick that up too.

Maisy Mouse:

It's apparently a quote from their own book, so I'm not sure they would be willing to remove it:

http://www.netmums.com/shop/How_to_be_a_Happy_Mum_The_Netmums_book.643/

I bought that book in asda's baby event a few months ago and haven't actually opened it so wished I hadn't bothered. I think I will now be throwing it out on principal. I would like to send it to the charity shop as I believe in recycling books but now I would be concerned someone vulnerable would buy it cheaply and read it and feel awful.

I think thats pretty disgusting actually.  Considering most Mums with PND are terrified of the impact they are having on their children, all they are actually doing is adding into that downward spiral of guilt & blame.  No mum needs to see that, let alone one with PND.

Way to make you feel worse than you already do. So wish I hadn't read that right now

I think it sounds a bit  off...like something a bossy old childless fart would say who doesn't know how bloody hard it can be!

Even as a Mum not suffering with PND/Depression I think it's outrageous.  Why not add a bit more to mother's guilt by telling them that?

It's bloody insensitive.

I think that's horrifically insensitive to say the least, not to mention patronising. There isn't a day when i don't worry and beat myself up about the impact my illness has on my children. To echo Pittabre - if I'd read that at my very lowest, it could have had devastating consequences.

Thanks for bringing it to our attention Maisy Mouse; I shall be emailing Netmums, and I may pass it on to some of my Psych Care Team, who are all experts in perinatal mental health - I imagine that they'd be equally disgusted by it.

I've been thinking about this today and feeling quite angry about it so I think I will actually email netmums. I'd hate to think of other mums seeing that and it upsetting them as it has me.

chunky monk - I'm so sorry if I upset you by posting this.

Maisy Mouse:

I've been thinking about this today and feeling quite angry about it so I think I will actually email netmums. I'd hate to think of other mums seeing that and it upsetting them as it has me.

chunky monk - I'm so sorry if I upset you by posting this.

Sorry no I'm ok...just that it annoyed me   I'll be sending a strong email that's for sure

Absolutely disgusting.

First of all, that would have been the final straw had I read that when I was at my lowest.  I felt every day that I wasn't good enough for Aliya, and in fact that was the basis of my depression.  So a quote like that would have pushed me over the edge.

Secondly, my daughter is probably the most confident, secure, happy-go-lucky and laid back person that I know.  To the point where people (HV, GP, nursery staff) often comment on her behaviour.  And that is down to her, and her alone.  If she was reflecting the behaviour she had seen from me in her first 3 years she would be stressed, crying, shouting, lethargic and bloody unhappy.

What a load of absolute bull$hit.  I am SO angry.  Clearly written by someone who has never had PND.

This quote just adds to the guilt that most women already feel. I knew my PND was affecting my son. It was a vicious circle- I was miserable, so was he, which made me more miserable etc. (I think) I have recovered from PND depression but that guilt and fear that i've ruined him for life is still there and will probably never go away. Writing things like that just multiplies it. They should remove it.

I sent a slightly scathing email to Netmums last night, as I was in something of a rage over this.  If I get an anknowledgement I'll post it here...

Yes, will keep you updated if I hear anything too. It would be interesting to hear what they have to say about it.