can i even start planning yet???

Need some advice cos i'm going mad here, my boyfriend(?) has half proposed and weddings are no longer a taboo subject but he wont let me say anything to anyone till he's asked my dads permission and bought a ring and got down on 1 knee! I know its sweet but i nearly told his sister when she popped round for a coffee yesterday just so i could have someone else to get excited about it with! so anyone, please, a little advice about what i can plan or how to get my ring (he was planning to propose next weekend apparently but i ruined the suprise) Cheers

I started planning my wedding before my boyfriend even half proposed, so i say plan away. 

thats enough encouragment for me lol

And it prompted my OH to get down on one knee

I would say Plan away!! Me and OH had ours pretty much planned before he'd proposed!! lol

xx

Been looking at various websites and getting various ideas but really where do you start! I fear i may become obsessed lol

I had alot planned and an engagement party planned before he 'officially' proposed

And as for becoming obsessed, its part of the territory I think, just roll with it

Congrats on your sorta-engagement

I think all girls plan their wedding before they get engaged officially!! I did. I looked at venues first as thats what decided everything else for me.

Happy planning x

i agree with vickstix start looking at venues! thats the first big thing and you can start planning by doing this.

and yes you will become obsessed but its all good fun

xxx

I'm in the minority and I say you can't plan if you're not engaged.  Though it sounds like you are engaged if he's asked you...?

GeordieBarbie:

I'm in the minority and I say you can't plan if you're not engaged.  Though it sounds like you are engaged if he's asked you...?

I join your minority - me and OH had talked about marriage before he proposed, but I didn't consider myself engaged....I dunno, I can't see the harm in perhaps looking htrough mags for ideas and seeing if there's any venues you particularly fancy but I wouldn't book anything yet personally.

I'd not starting planning fully yet, but you can start looking & taking note of things/sites that you like the look of.  I'm single, but I'm also a HIB & have worked in this industry for several years now, so often see things that I like the look of or think are unique etc.  Almost in the same way as if I see a travel program & think one day I'd like to visit there!!  Haha!  Wonder why I'm single.....?

hmmm what do you mean half proposed?! i booked the honeymoon and arranged venue tours before he 'properly' proposed but we'd been talking about it for years and knew it would have to be this summer (worked out timewise - career breaks etc) so it depends on how your conversations have been going.

but as others have said, no harm in doing lots of research and starting to make a little file of things you like.

xx

I'm afraid I'm with the girls who say you shouldn't plan. It's fine to have some ideas and obvioulsy having the inclination to marry!

Why rush things now though? You'll only be engaged for a short time (compared to the length of your marriage) so leave the fun until then!  

I guess how 'kinda engaged' you are?!!

Me and Oh decicded we would get married, planned the date etc (worked out how soon we could afford it!!) but he still wanted the engagement bit a suprise..... even though I obv knew it was coming!!

We booked our venue, chose our BM dresses, looked at flowers, cakes etc before we had even told anyone! We eventually told our parents and then as soon as we got engaged (xmas day 2009.... we began planning in Jan 09!!) we had a big party to celebrate and told everyone else. Lots of people thought it odd but it worked for us and we have had and still are having loads of fun planning

x