Bridesmaid - WWYD?

OK so I have one lovely bridesmaid, my lovely best friend whom I asked a year ago when I got engaged but there is another friend who I ummed and ahed about asking then didn't but now I really want her to be. My family is not being the most supportive wedding wise & my mum isn't going to be with me the morning before the wedding (that's a whole other thread!) the other friend has offered to come and help me get ready & I was wondering if I should just ask her to be BM too? She would do a great job & I could use the extra support. Plus right now I don't have anyone who would do a speech for me (don't want to ask mum or dad) and I think she would do a good job of that too (original BM is too shy). 

What do you think? Do you think she might think she was a 'second thought' or back up plan or something? Or should I ask her? 

There's only one way to find out.  And she's your mate - you should be able to chat to her 

I'm sure she'll be thrilled! 

if you really want her as a BM I would ask her.  You could say something like you always wanted her as a BM but your budget was too tight but now you've managed to save some money and you would love it if she'd be your BM.

Only thing is, how will your other BM feel about it???  Will she feel as if shes not doing a good enough job and you had to ask somebody else??  Might be worth mentioning it to her too to ask her opinion.

I asked 2 of my best friends to be my bridesmaids over 7 months after I chose my originals. I was worried about the same thing but I just explained to them that I always wanted them but was unsure about my budget and had to ask the sisters first but that after the plans started to fall into place more it was more achievable than I first thought and that I would be honoured for them to be my bridesmaids and they were thrilled. Ever since I have felt my bridal party is complete and I am so glad I asked. They soon got over worrying if they were only asked because I felt I had too!

She'll most likely just be very honoured when you explain that you think she will be a great supportive asset to your day x

Thank you I should just ask her! Really scared of rejection for some reason! 

Gillsy - I have thought about that with the other BM & I think she might think that a tiny bit but it will be OK. I think she will like the support as well ultimately. 

Go for it and ask.

If it were me I would not see it as second thought.

If it is what you really want then just go for it and explain to both of them the reasons why and I am sure the original BM will be happy for some supporting in helping you!!

i would ask her i got asked to be a bm by my best friend and that was only three months before and  i was so excited i didnt think that i was second best or anything i think she will be thrilled xx

An update - so I finally asked her last weekend and she said she would be honoured to be! I also find out she is 12 weeks pregnant will her 2nd child so will be 8 months pregnant at the wedding - might pose some dress issues but it hasn't put her off! 

Hurrah! 

Fantastic!

Yeay!  Glad to hear it.  I hope you're feeling happier too