Can you and your LO be too attached to each other?

Im asking because alot of people are saying it about me and D, i adore her and she adores me quite simply.

We are never apart and although we go to lots of groups etc i could quite happily be with just her all day everyday.She loves cuddles with me and playing together,if she sleeps in the day she will lay with me with her hand on my cheek the whole time,and i love to feel so needed by her.

She is at the stage where she does get upset if i leave the room etc but i know my other 2 did the same thing too at 10months....maybe its because she is my last im trying to make the most of every second with her before she grows up?

But people are now saying we are too atached to each other and i need to spend some time away from her,but i just dont want too....

At 10 months I don't think youa re too attached.  If you and your OH haven't got a problem with it I wouldn't worry.  Who has commented on it?  Do they have other motivates on why they are commenting?

I do think there is a time where some time apart is a good thing beause it prepares them for pre-school and then school and they need to feel confident to do things by themselves but I don't think it's at 10 months.

My lo is nearly 2.5 yrs, we have been together every day since she was born (at some point). I'm a SAHM & whilst we haven't co slept or perhaps been as close during her naps, we spent every moment with each other at 10 mths. We probably went to a music class & 1 other toddler group as well as visiting friends at that stage also.

G is very confident, goes to a playgroup 2 mornings per wk & has never given me a backward glance since she started at 2. She happily plays at home now, making up little adventures for her toys, chatting away & loving life.

She still loves her Mummy & we have great times together etc, but she's become a trusting confident girl, I wouldn't worry about others comments unless you think there is concern, you will both gradually get your own space & she will get independent to some degree.

Why should you??? Sounds like they are jealous to me! As long as she can play on her own happily with other children knowing you're near by then there shouldn't be a problem...

Ignore others and do what works for you and your family. If you are satisfying her needs, it is the right thing to be doing, imo.
It's great that you have lots of experience of the separation anxiety stage, so you know it is normal. Others don't know, by the sound of it.

I am uncomfortable about western society's ideal that independence at a young age is to be pushed onto a child.
The attachment parenting school of thought (and I'd love to know if there's any research publications on this) is that babies/children who are allowed to become less dependent at their own pace are more independent in the long-term.

I hated that returning to work at 12ish months forced me to spend more time away from my son than he was comfortable with at the time.

No I think what you have is lovely. I'm now realising how attached E and I are to each other. He goes to nursery once a week and I miss him loads, other than that we are very rarely apart.

Thnks all,i feel better now.

I know people are just giving me their opinions when they say we are too attached to each other,but i really dont think we are!

She plays with my H and other DD's but comfort wise it is always me and yes if im in the room she will choose to be with me than with the others.

I dont co-sleep with her at night only for her morning nap and thats because i normally sleep with her too as she doesnt sleep very well at night

Im going to have to choose to ignore people and do whats right for us arent i?

I don't think there's such thing as 'too attached'. You sound like you're doing a brilliant job and it's wonderful you have such a loving relationship. Ignore everyone else and carry on as you are I say.

I do think you can be too attached.  I'm not saying that you are, your LO is still very young, but I do think it is possible to be if it is detrimental to the child forming relationships outside of the one they have with you.

I need to clarify this by saying that whilst I totally love Zoe and love spending time with her I need time off too.  I couldn't spent all my time with her as I would end up resenting it, I need time to myself.