how many friends do you have?

just a musing really from the top 10 things thread

i have no close friends noone i would call/text for a gossip, i only ever go out with my H or my mum, my h has alot of friends and i was kinda close to his best mates wife infact she was my cheif bridesmaid but we are just so different esp since becoming mums at similar times we have such different parent views so that relationship has gone by the wayside

my h goes out once a week with his friends and thats fine i like to stay in and do my own thing (hitch lol)

other than that i rely on this place for my rantings and see you fellow hitchers as friends

i go to loads of groups with my LO but still dont have many mummy friends i will talk to anyone but never end up part of the gang

this often makes me sad but in a way i feel i have pushed people away so its my own doing i think i am just not destined to have friends

anyone else feel like this or am i the only friendless person put there?

None beyond my internet wierdies (luckily I'm meeting as many as poss). Zip. Zero. Zilch.

In fact we're using S's birthday party as a networking thing, to start up a few playdates with nursery mums etc.

Otherwise, I'm a no-mates... sob...

Ummm, quite a few. But I am in the unique position as a forces wife where your friends become your family, otherwise it's a very very lonely existence. I have about half a dozen people that I know I could day or night and they would help me, and I've only known some of them less than a year.

As for friends where I come from. I have none anymore.

see i dont believe that from you , you seem so lovely and i had in my head you would have squillions of friends

I'm quite friendless too. I had lots of friends when i was younger but always one best friend.

She sadly passed away in June 2007 and since then i feel a bit on my own , she was like my limbs. I go out often with my mum and sister and i have one friend how i see about 4 times per year , i know i could call her if needed but we don't text each other gossip.

It doesn't make me sad and i know i'll never have a friend like my best friend ever again.

I've only a couple of close friends. I don't have friends already who have started parenthood at the sameish time as me so I threw myself in to baby groups - I talk to anyone (which is quite hard for me as I am actually q.shy and then worry if people think what I've said is stupid). But like you I just don't seem to make it to the next level past aquaintances at groups etc. I'm feeling a bit down about it tonight after seeing on FB people I know meeting up - but my OH is working late and I'm hormonal

Duck no more:

I'm quite friendless too. I had lots of friends when i was younger but always one best friend.

She sadly passed away in June 2007 and since then i feel a bit on my own , she was like my limbs. I go out often with my mum and sister and i have one friend how i see about 4 times per year , i know i could call her if needed but we don't text each other gossip.

It doesn't make me sad and i know i'll never have a friend like my best friend ever again.

i am so sorry to hear (read) that, that must have been and i am sure still is very hard for you

I havre 2 close friends from othertimes in mylife who live at the other end of the country and one friend who lives near by (well, an hour away!) but i don't see her as often as I'd like as neither H or I like her husband! HOwever, I have no friends in the local area and my plan to infiltrate with people at baby group hasn't produce any results so far!

In fact one of my closest friends is duck24 - we have never met but have text constantly for the last year after we both got BFPs at a similar time and she is the person I 'speak' to most!

H and I are joining the local 4x4 offroading club in a bid o make more friends and are looking into starting going to the archery range at some point too.

But for the most part I'd say I don't have many friends, and with my family all being at the outher end of the country or in a differentcountry H is the only person I go out with really.

Duck no more:

I'm quite friendless too. I had lots of friends when i was younger but always one best friend.

She sadly passed away in June 2007 and since then i feel a bit on my own , she was like my limbs. I go out often with my mum and sister and i have one friend how i see about 4 times per year , i know i could call her if needed but we don't text each other gossip.

It doesn't make me sad and i know i'll never have a friend like my best friend ever again.

I am so sorry to hear that, I have  about 5 close friends and one best friend and she is definitely like a limb, in fact we have been known to refer to each other as wife <saddo icon needed!> 

I have quite a few people I know and sometimes meet up with. When it comes ro really close friends who I can confide in I have 1 (an ex hitcher who introduced me to hitched when I was wedding planning!), however she lives hundreds of miles away and we are both busy with kids/work etc so I haven't seen her for 2 years:(

I guess I really am quite lonely.

I have one very best friend who I've known since I was a baby and just a handful of really close friends. They're all friends for life and although sometimes we can go for months without contact, we're always there for eachother.

I'm lucky that I also have a few good mates too and who knows, some of the newer ones I've met may become friends for life too.

I do find there are different friends for different things - some are great for emotional suppport, some good for chit-chat, some more gossipy, some great as shopping companions etc. etc.  Goodness knows what they'd say I was good for!

Having said that, I'm not really a 'phoning for a chat' kinda gal and do most of my catching up by text/email/fb if not face to face.

BoB x

I have one friend that I would tell everything to and never feel uncomfortable, but since I become a mum we don't see each other as much but we still meet up occassionally, she lives about 2 hours away.  I have friends who are the wives of my Hs friends but none that I would tell any of my personal business to, and then there is a couple that I have met since becoming a mum, we meet for coffee and occassionally take the kids to the zoo but again no-one that I am really close to.  I guess I feel these days that my H is my closest/best friend.  I lost my mum 8 years ago and I think I toughened up a bit and don't worry about it as much as I did a few years ago, plus I use to see quite a few different people but never really enjoyed their company so I slowly distanced myself and these days I feel a lot happier with things.

x

Peas in a Pod - I could have written your post.  I've been feeling increasingly lonely over the last week so it's a subject close to me at the moment.

We moved house and area a month before our first baby was born so my pre-baby friends don't live locally.  That said, none of them have invited me out once for a night out since my son was born 3 years ago (the majority are childless).

I know lots of mummies in the local area.  When I go out to playgroups I always see people I know and are never short of people to talk to.  But i always feel on the periphery of groups.  I think half my problem is that people assume I have a set of people that I go out with, but the truth is I don't.

I don't see much of my NCT group as one of the girls has made it her business to isolate me from the group.  She is a nasty piece of work with a big chip on her shoulder about something and basically (I think) doesn't want me around because she wants to dominate the group and be 'seen' as the leader.  (I don't even want to be the poxy leader, but I think she is threatened my my existence!)  She has been very nasty to me in a very underhand way (that the other girls aren't aware of) and I think this has dented my confidence alot.

In a similar way to Madonna, I've used Archie's 3rd birthday as an opportunity to meet new mums and, in particular, the nursery mums who I think are a lovely lovely group.  In fact I've since taken the initiative to arrange a night out next week as a 'Nursery Mum's Social' and I've had really good interest in it from the others, so I'm hoping this may be the start of some new friendships.

x

I'd say I probably have 4 friends, two from school days (one I don't see that often and one who I see every week, we go on holiday together etc).  I have another friend I met at work - she's great fun and we have a good gossip when we get together.  The other is my SiL - again we have children the same ages-ish and she's just lovely.

I do have other Mummy 'friends' but TBH some of them wouldn't be my friends if we didn't have the children in common IYSWIM.  Plus, once I go back to work in a month or so I'll hardly ever see them and they'll soon forget I ever existed [:'(]

hi, don't really come on here much now, think I might start again!!

Could of written the post myself, I don't really have any friends apart from work collegues (do go an coupley weekends with them but wouldn't go to them with problems), have a couple of mummy firends just gradually building the friendships up.  I don't have anyone to go to for a gossip/moan/out for a drink and this can build up between me and H.

Gemma