Money Poems

Mrs Spink to be!:

Karen1980:

  I have to out my 2 pennies worth in here now.

I have found that the formal has been nicer lately as people have moved on a bit and new people have arrived.

I got beaten up by posts a couple of times one was about asking people that are close in a nice was to contribute to the meal if they would like to come as we're on a budget I got hell for that so was pleasantly supposed to see nice postings on a similar thread the other day.

The other was the church but not meal invite..

I think each to their own.. At the end of the way the people you have coming aren't there for a show or one upmanship they are your friends and family and love you and know you. And understand.

I have invited my cousins to the evening and mentioned that it would be great to see them at the church but will understand if they don’t want to as I havent been able to include them in the meal.

Anyway back on topic.. Each to their own live and let live!

Runs and hides ready to be attacked!

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I would say that is rather harsh.  You ask for peoples opinions, and the honest people we are we gave them you.  Just because they aren't what you want to hear doesn't mean we're 'beating you up'.

WMStoBS

I completely agree...if we 'loved' everything we'd be turning into c*nfetti...and if that happens I'm off. The joy of hitched - and the reason it has so many long standing posters - is that you can say exactly what you think/believe, giving the option to the OP to take the advice and work with it, or decide to stick to their guns.

I am only saying that I noticed how different the response was for paying your way this time.. than when I posted several months ago... seems to be more accepted with new members than the long termers and married that are on the forum.

So confetti is the friendlier place then? I wondered why people didnt like it!now I know

Karen1980:

So confetti is the friendlier place then? I wondered why people didnt like it!now I know

I think we are all friendly here. Just honest! I would hate for people not to be honest and only give a opinion when they agree. Whats the point in asking a question if your not prepared to get answers that dont agree with your own thoughts.

I also think that most on here are very friendly and also extremly helpful.

Not everyone is always going to agree with your ideas but surely that is why you post ideas on here.... to get another opinion?!

I personally dont mind money poems and I do think that a lot of people have not seen them before, maybe only brides2b and people that have been to a lot of weddings. We recieved an invite to a wedding the other week and both my sister and mum commented on the money poem they had included and thought it was nice and had not seen it before. Everyone is different and have different opioions on them, likewise with venues, dresses, decorations and cakes etc. If you like it, then go for it!

I personally quite like money poems, havn't decided yet whether we're gonna have them. I love poetry & we made up a mini poem to go with our std (mainly to point out to people that they were magnets!!) and our cards to ask the bridesmaids & best men to be part of our wedding party. Each to their own.

I think this is the 1st thread about this subject that has been more postive than negative.

We're having a honeymoon gift list and I love the idea of a little poem so we will definitely be having one - and embracing it! They are a bit naff but then weddings in general can be a bit naff! I think its slightly tongue in cheek asking this way rather than just straight out and a bit fun.

People are entitled to their opinions, one of the good things is you will get an honest answer on here i guess, but remember posts can be read in different ways and tone of voice isnt apparent so people can take offence when it may not be meant!

This is the one we're thinking of having 

We know it's not tradition

It's not the way it's done
But instead of a wedding list
We'd like a bit of sun
We've lived together quite a while
And all the bills are paid
We've got our plates, our pots and pans,
Our plans have all been made
We would appreciate your help though,
To send us on our way
A contribution to our honeymoon
In a land quite far away
But most importantly, we request,
You come to our wedding as our guest
To share with us our special day
And have some fun along the way

Snurton123, WE picked the same one as you.

I also have to agree with what you wrote.

snurton123:

People are entitled to their opinions, one of the good things is you will get an honest answer on here i guess, but remember posts can be read in different ways and tone of voice isnt apparent so people can take offence when it may not be meant!

It wouldn't be a forum if you didnt allow everyone to have an opinion. You will always get responses that you weren't expecting.

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If you want to use a money poem use it, if you don't then don't.  There are a few ladies on here who think it is rude to just come right out and ask for money, no matter how you word it and at the end of the day it's their right to say whatever they want, it's just that some people take it the wrong way.

I love the honesty of this place, it's like having virtual best friends close to hand to make sure you don't make that mistake of a really bad impulse buy, it's up to each individual how they take the advice given on here but it's not intended as "beating up", "harsh" or any other way other than people just trying to help.

You ask a question and you get everyones honest opinion, nothing else.

I'm not a ig fan of money poems but since my h2b is a hoarder I will be adding one to my invites but also doing a little gift list to give my guests an option and also to renew things that have just been lying at the bottom of a cupboard because they are broken.