Family not liking your baby name choices

Gah, i knew i shouldn't have told anyone our potential names!

My mum phoned last night and the subject of names came up. I didn't want to talk about it but after a while she got me to tell her some of the names we were considering. She hated all of them. I told her it didn't matter what she thought, it was our baby and we would call it what we liked, but it's still left me feeling a bit down; and now i'm doubting all the names we like

Erk. You learned that lesson hard, what a shame she wasn't more positive for you! I hope she wasn't rude, at least x

Don't feel you need to justify the name choices you have for your baby. What's your Mum's name? I don't like it

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For that very reason we're not telling anyone the names we're thinking of! Not even parents.

Try to forget about your mum's reaction Moomin, and go with what you 2 like xx

dont let it put you off, they will get used to it, its not their baby so they dont have a say. you probably wouldnt call your baby the name your parents called you or were considering for you etc.

the world would be a boring place if we all had the same taste :-)

x

Poor you. Oh dear I had this with the MIL who told me in no uncertain terms her opinions.

Which we completelty ignored and she's not said anything since...

I think family should butt out and keep their opinions to themselves, unless there is some really compelling reason they feel they should comment, for example if you were wanting to reuse a name from a child who has been lost or something like that.

For that very reason, we didn't discuss names with anyone - no matter how many times they asked! When she was born & we announced her name, everyone was positive (to us anyway).

I'm quite careful when discussing plans & ideas anyway, some may say I'm a bit closed, but I'm happy that way.

Don't let the comments put you off your choices though, it'll be your child, your Mum had her choices when you & any of your siblings were born.

Yep, the exact reason why we refuse to tell anyone our potential names

I know my family will hate them, so am keeping all options quiet until the baby is here and then whatever name we choose will be his/her name, and if they choose to object to it then, then that's their problem.

Sorry you had a negative reaction and I hope it doesn't put you off a name you love x

Yep, we had this too.  When I told my mother the name we were considering her words were "what kind of name is that?"  The MIL spent ages on the phone to my husband trying to convince him to change it and that she'll be picked on or some such.  It wasn't even an unusual name.  We still picked it and I can't imagine her as anything else.  The family have got used to it now and didn't make any more comments once she was born and we'd decided.  Don't let it put you off the name.

that is why we are not telling anyone , as we want to chose with no influence and once the baby is born and name chosen well they cant make you change your mind.

dont let it get to you, it is your baby,  your mum will get round it

xx

Moz

I wouldnt worry about it too much, when I said a few names to my mum before she wasnt keen but by the time it came to the end of my pregnancy she loved them all, even though we werent thinking of those names anymore!

My nan on the other hand was very opinionated about which ones we should have and which we shouldnt so this time whenever she asks "so are you having x?" I tell her that we havent decided and I am not deciding until she's here. We have got a name but even though she likes it I'd rather not have her opinion on it anyway. She nearly turned me off having Theo as a name because it was the only name she 'liked and so we had to have it' - it almost made me go the other way

I'm undecided on gauging reactions though as I'm not sure if I'd want people to be honest if it was a name they hated or to wait until I'd used it and they would never say but secretly they hated it ... I usually just throw a load of random names in and see which ones get a reaction. I dont know, same thing I suppose.

I am the same as mozarella  - didnt tell anyone the names we had in our mind

I had a girls name ready if it was a girl and my MIL said now you have a boy you can tell me the name you were thinking for a girl and i said no - she understands though

she is lovely as she said she thought i would have lovely name choices  bless her!

My mum was quite rude about a middle name choice, I wouldn't tell her 1st name choices.

A friend convinced her MIL she was going for Winston, which her MIL hated, but had a completely different name lined up anyway. You could do the same?

Sshh:

Don't feel you need to justify the name choices you have for your baby. What's your Mum's name? I don't like it

x

Brilliant!!!

yes, we had told a few people names choices, but they managed to put us off using the name, so we kept schtum after that. Everyone was very +ve when we told them J's name saying they really liked it.

It was only when we got mum drunk last summer that she said her initial reaction when we'd told her J's name was "bloody hell - how on earth did they come up with THAT"? Which makes me feel a little actually, but she did go on to say that she really liked it, it was just a bit out of the blue.

This time we wotn tell anyone. If people ask, we make something up on the spot. My mum asked about boys names the other day & we told her we'd decided on the Polish name 'Dragon' for a boy. You should have seen her face drop

My mum isnt too keen on the name we have for this one if its a boy, but its tough as its the only one that me and H have agreed on! Its not even 'out there' or anything, its traditional! She will like the middle name though as its the same as my dads so at least there is some consolation there!