Thinking milk, upset on wedding day

My MIL ddecided that because we hadn't invited her to the pub the night before our wedding (we had but she told us she had a headache) she would send OH a nasty text saying he would regret walking down the aisle and she refused to be in any of the photos and proceeded to be miserable all day and tell anyone that would listen how awful we both are! The following day she argued with my H and threw tea at him so he kicked her out (staying at our house supposedly for 2 weeks) and on the Monday drove her to Heathrow to get her flight home to South africa.  We haven't heard from her since!

Yes. I used to suffer from really bad acne and I had a breakout just before the wedding. It was so bad that even makeup couldn't cover it up and was really obvious in all the photos. I cried when I first saw my wedding pics and then taught myself to use photoshop so I could edit them all! I spent hours editing angry red spots out of my face!

Tigeresslady  sounds like you are well rid - what a loon!

I was annoyed rather than upset on my wedding day, and fortunately a lot of it was great so this thing didn't marr it for me overall...  we were married in a room at the venue, a private house, which couldn't accommodate all guests.  The plan - as discussed with venue and recorded on their OTD coordinator's crib sheet - was for her to get all other guests into the hall outside the wedding room, so that MrMG and I could walk out to rapturous applause.  We walked out to an empty room, but for the OTD girl saying "shall I go and get the other guests now?".  They were in a bar a few minutes walk away, so the dribs and drabs flow of people towards us was not quite the reception I had hoped to enjoy!

Oh - they rang me on my honeymoon to tell me they were charging me for an outdoor iron table that one of my guests had apparently bent, and smashed the glass top.  I felt it could have waited until AFTER my honeymoon, so gave them short shrift about slinging their hook, and being grateful I wasn't slapping a personal injury claim on them as a result of them having shoddy and dangerous tables

My mum, unsurprisingly given our lifetime relationship! Se arried 2 days before our wedding abroad with no hot weather clothes and complained that we hadn't told her it was going to be hot (apparently worldwide weather reports were cancelled that week, I guess). She also complained that the castle we had booked for everyone to stay in had too many stairs for her to climb with her bad knee. During the wedding meal she got in a complete strop with one of the waiters because she wanted a different drink than wine and because they were busy serving the first drinks/canapes they couldn't run off immediately and get a drink for her. I had to get involved and calm her down but she had a face like a slapped arse all night. This was all after she had originally told me she didn't think that she and my dad could attend our wedding at all because it clashed with their plans to move house (made after our wedding was announced) and she had no-one to look after her dogs.

On a lighter note it was so windy 1500 quids worth of fireworks went up in 5 mins, my 2yo niece shouted all through Mr M's speech, and because the castle had no aircon I sweated into my dress, causing all my make-up to fall off!

I still had a brilliant day though lol!

Some of these are awful, I really feel for you ladies

Don't think there was anything too terrible at ours. The venue's wedding co-ordinator was (in my Dad's words) 'a bit like Hitler's MIL' and spent the day barking orders at people. When I arrived (the customary 10 minutes late), I was greeted with "we're not ready for you yet" - nothing else.

Our mate who was supposed to be feeding our cats confessed at 10pm that he'd forgotten and they hadn't been fed for 3 days (he dashed home rather quickly the next day but luckily they were both fine). 

Oh, and a 'friend' stole our taxi - we'd booked it specially as the wedding was in a village that was only served by about 3 cabs in total. So we ended up having to wait over an hour for another one. The co-ordinator had locked the venue so we were by far the last to leave our wedding, and ended up sitting on the front steps like a pair of homeless people...

yep, my husband never wrote a speech, he downloaded bits of the internet changed a few words etc and thought that would do. as soon as he started to blab you can see on the video my face going mad, but shouted at him the day after, was so pissed off at him for it, would of been better if he had just said nothing!

My wedding day was hard for me, despite it all being wonderful and lovely, I had miscarried the week before, but for various reasons, mainly the pregnancy being unplanned, I hadn't even told my H. My original plan was to tell him on our wedding night, I'd somehow spent the previous week convincing myself that perhaps all was ok with the pregnancy despite all the pain and bleeding, and even limited myself to one glass of champers on the day. But when I came to tell him that evening, it struck me that no, I had lost the baby, so I handed him the babygro I'd bought as a way of telling him, but then had to say that I was pregnant, but that I thought i'd miscarried. Not telling him before it all went wrong was an awful decision (based on the niavety of thinking all would be ok) and one I'll regret forever, I don't think I've ever felt as lonely as I did on my wedding day, every single person that meant anything to me was there, and no-one knew!

When we booked our venue we were told that there was a possibility of another wedding, but if anyone enquired they would give us first refusal to book exclusive use.  This is a year before the wedding.  We found out the week before that another wedding was booked in !   That was fine, we were reassured that the timings etc were such as that we wouldn't bump into each other and there were seperate areas for each wedding.

We arranged that a particular room would be where our guests could have lunch before the wedding (3pm ceremony), and we would then use that in the evening too.  The night before I spent hours decorating it - flowers and candles on mantlepiece etc.

When I arrived at the venue to get ready (at exactly lunch time ) the other bride was coming out of her ceremony room.  The hotel manager wanted me to walk past her and all her guests which I refused to do as I was in my tiara and veil and a t-shirt saying bride (yes, twee I know).  Anyway she made her way into our room.  So I said something along the lines of "oh is she having photos done" to be told that no they were now using that as their ceremony room.

I was fuming !  Not that she was using the room but that it now meant there was nowhere for our guests to have lunch.  Still haven't quite got over that one.  The fact that H lost his temper with the hotel manager - the only time in the 10 years I've known him - shows quite what a pigs ear it was.  This was one of many things that the hotel fucked up.

Jap

I wouldn't say it 'haunts' me - its more amusing now! - My mum lives in spain and forgot to change her watch so 10 mins before the ceremony started she still had wet hair thinking she had another hour! And apparetky when H and his bestman were gettig ready they had to use google images to work out how to wear the kilts!! Probably the worse thing that happened tho was one of my friend was hit by a car two days before hand - she broke quite a few bones etc so obviously couldn't come as she s in hospital so i was quite worried about her!

Our wedding day was fantastic.

We got married in a School with 30 acres of grounds and a lake... very nice indeed.

The only thing that was a problem was the woman who co-ordinated the weddings. She came to us in a huge strop when the cake was being cut because the wedding cake had nuts in it and "The school is a nut free zone!"

Well, two problems with that then. 1 she hadn't told us the school was a "nut free zone" and 2 why was chicken satay on the buffet menu? Surely the satay sauce is made with peanuts... she was rather sheepish when that was pointed out to her!

Oh and there was Tommy....Mr S's friend's son, who was found chucking stones at the chapel window and was then later airbrushed out of some of the photos because he was dragging a muddy wooden post that he'd dug up from the drive! It didn't add the character we wanted to the cute photo of Sharrington surrounded by little girls blowing bubbles!

x

I loved my day and we got married abroad and the guests arrived the night before the wedding.  My BM stayed with me the night before but shot off to be with her boyfriend in the morning so I was on my own for most of the day.  Everyone was getting ready in different hotels.  I was on the phone to my BF who was pregnant so couldn't make it and she was so upset I was on my own.

Japnart   I had a strong feeling I'd had a missed m/c, but MrMG said no to a private scan before our wedding, as he said if it was bad news it'd ruin it.  Of course, he also thought I was worrying over nothing really.  5 days after our wedding our routine 12 week scan confirmed my fears.  He was actually right, but even now I don't really like to look at my wedding photos - that was the girl who was pregnant on her wedding day, except she wasn't.  I really feel for you my love - some things should never go together, like m/c and wedding days.  Not that anyone should ever have a m/c ever.  ykwim.  for you - am creying for you reading that. xx

Japnart & MG. xxx

 to those that need them.

My wedding is whats started all the hassle with my inlaws. We had the usual during the planning stage of trying to add guests etc but on the day the venue had put them in a perfectly nice room, but one that they didn't feel reflected their status as the grooms parents. So 30 mins before the ceremony we were asking guests to swap rooms and they still weren't happy. 

Day after FIL refused to speak to us - he just blanked me, H and our families. Even more uncomfortable as he insisted on taking us to the airport for honeymoon and ignored us throughoutt the journey. I was in tears as I had never been apart from Bratski for so long and he was just being horrible. As we got out H asked him what the problem was and he just snapped "It should have been organised". I was in tears (again) and rang them from the airport to apologise, but they wouldn't answer the phone so I left a message.

Throughout the honeymoon we had text after text about the wedding and then they kicked off with us because we didn't want them to do a wedding announcement in the local paper. 

On our return there was a 3 page email outlining what was wrong with our wedding and we found out after that they had been saying some awful things to guests and had been round to see my parents to ask them what sort of woman I was to be so horrible to them. For the next 5 months we recieved some awful emails that were just downright nasty - calling me a b!tch, saying they hated me, I wasn't good enough for their son, full of expletives. It caused such problems in what should have been our first few happy newlywed months. Mr K insisted on ignoring them but it felt like all they did was have a go and I wasn't allowed to respond. I had a MC in Dec 2008 and Mr K asked them toleave me alone to which we had another appalling text about baby killers/eaters and who did we think we were?

I wouldn't mind but I was far from a bridezilla - we had such a laid back day that I loved at the time, but can't even look at the photos now.

I have to speak to them now - they suddenly started being nice when I was 8 and a half months pregnant and MIL has apologised on FIL's behalf (he has never admitted anything, despite being the main instigator) so Mr K forgave them as he's nicer than me. I keep it to a minimum of contact from me - I have not forgiven them and don't think I ever will. I am civil, which is more than they deserve!