How is your social life now you are a Mummy?

Just sitting here in the car. They boys fell asleep on the way home from twins club. This morning at twins club the mums all decided that we need a night out so we can actually finish a conversation without dashing off after a child. It's got me thinking that actually since I had the boys my social life is amazing. I never used to go out much but now there's a night out about 3 times a month. Not to mention all the friends we meet up with during the week. I do have Hitched to thank for some amazing friends I've made over the years, but I've also made other really good friends just because I am Davy and Joe's mummy. Being a Mummy is totally fab! X

I've met some fantastic people since having a child. My best friend is a Hitcher who I met at that meet all those years ago!

I'm going to a Hitched meet tomorrow.

I don't go out at night so much these days but thats through choice rather than anything else!

The 2 neighbours I have got talking to since we moved, I only approached because we all have kids and it gives a starting point to chat.

oh i want to go to a hitched meet think its a bit far to come would love to meet you first baby your ace!!!!

AH thank you Ouzey. where do you live? x

I have more good friends now than ever before. I'm really happy that I have at least 4 mum friends who are fab to be around - non-judgemental, supportive and kind.
I'm the only one who can't go out in the evening yet (22mther isn't great at settled sleep in the evening) but I don't feel left out or judged.
I'll be so sad when we move to NZ in 2 years (even though its my home and I miss it loads) as I'll be so far from these friends.

I'm pretty busy on the 2 week days I don't work, but have everyone come to me one of those mornings so that we can chat fairly well while our toddlers are contained in the same room.

rubbish since I went back to work.

I have lots of friends I just don't see them as much as I'd like to I think we communicate by hitched mostly.

Pretty good really! I get out about once a week with girlfriends/cousins for dinner/wine etc, and H is happy to have Daddy time too. I think it's important to still be me as well as being a mum. As soon as my folks are home (they fly south in winter!) H and I can start going out again. I also think it's essential that we're still husband and wife as well as mum and dad. I've just come back from my frist weekend away without T and he and his Dad had a grand old time whilst I was gone!

(Having said this, I mentioned at Mum'sClub that I like to get out once a week-ish and one of the grannies there said she thought that was waay too much and that I should be staying home whilst T is so little, and she would refuse to babysit that often if her daughter asked her! She said it in that awful 'laughing but I mean it' passive aggressive way, and then asked me if I was a bad influence on her (36 year old) daughter! I said everyone should have at least one bad influence, and moved away! I bet she irons her knickers every morning....)

When I'm on mat leave my social life is great - both day and night.  The nights out of course are much rarer but as Sharrington says it's great to be able to talk without constantly running after the children.

When I went back to the work the first time (and I totally expect it to happen this time) I kinda tended to get forgotten about, it's almost as if my SAHM friends think I don't need a night out - which is very untrue!

We are probably going to move a little out of the area soon, so alot of the friends I've made through ante-natal and baby groups I probably won't keep in touch with so it's going to be hard building up the network of Mum's again - particularly with working full-time. 

What's one of those then?

I can't remember the last time I went out of an evening with or without H. Actually thats not true, we went to a friends on Sat for a takeaway, and took M with us. If its not somewhere we can take him then we just dont go anywhere.

We don't have anyone to babysit, so really struggle, H is out at least 3 nights a week with college and his band. I don't do anything in the evenings. I asked my sis to have M in two weeks but she has something arranged for the same night, I'm gutted

I do meet a friend prob once a week in the daytime for a playdate, either at her house or here.

I do feel sometimes that I'm 'just M's Mummy', which of course is amazing, but it would be nice to be 'Me' too.

My social life is pretty darn good (as you know Sharrington!)

I have three main social groups - the Kleek (for daytimes with kids and evenings without), our NCT group (mostly daytimes but the odd evening here and there) and my pre-baby friends (mostly for evenings out but a couple of them have LOs too so we sometimes meet during the day). So that's two more groups than I had before Holly came along! It's a bit of a whirl sometimes, and H and I tend to have to book our evenings out well in advance (although sadly, lack of family locally means we don't get to go out as a couple very much).

In last couple of weeks, Holly and I have been on play dates several times, plus I've been salsa dancing, to see a show in London and on a hen weekend, and I have a pub quiz, two birthday dinners and another show to look forward to in the next couple of weeks. (And in fact, I think I've double booked myself one night, oops...)

I actually have a social life now.  It's slowed down a bit now that most people are back at work but it's still much better than it was before.  I guess partly because I worked away before I didn't actually know anyone whereas now I do.

Better than it was, not as good as it could be! Have done more since Joe was born than beforehand though, and hope to do lots more when Sausage is here.

Hasn't changed too much for me, other than I don't go out quite as often. I'm really lucky that my close friends live in the same village so we meet at the pub fairly frequently for a catch up and my mum is local for babysitting.

Don't have a huge number of mummy friends, I work every morning which means I miss a lot of the groups but do meet my postnatal group mummies every month or two and hoping to do more when on ML this time round.

Am hopefully going on my first Hitched meet in March though which I am very excited about!

nowhere near as good as it was pre-baby, sadly.

We have no babysitters so H and I haven't been out together since Milly was born. I do lots of socialising during the day with Milly, but next to nothing in the evening. I miss it.

my social life has decreased slightly since molly was born but thats prob not a bad thing as i am first to admit i was getting a little out of control.....most socialising was done with friends from work so as i'm on m/l it has made it easier.

my mum is fairly local and the last time H and i went out alone was a couple of weeks ago but that was the first time in a while.  A friend of mine and i have just started babysitting for each other tho so hopefully that will change.

I don't really have any mummy friends round here but molly has not long started dancing and pre school so hopefully that will change too.

All in all its not bad really