Were calling the wedding off...

But dont panic, were still together, were still great, and we still are going to get married...

We have been thinking of cancelling it for a while now, it has been causing so many problems within the family that were not even looking forward to it anymore, we can only have 22 people each and the actual ceremony and my immediate family come up to about 24 or something, so OH had to take some of my family, and because of this I couldnt invite my dads sister (who btw I have nothing to do with and nobody in the family likes her apart from my dad) and he found out and has said if my sister isnt invited then im not coming.

Also my sister who is my maid of honour has said that she doesnt want anything to do with the wedding, she isnt a weddingy person, she doesnt agree with what I want and basically she cant be bothered. There have been lots of things that have gone wrong but they are the main ones. Im sick and tired of it all, I know wedding planning isnt all good but when it gets to the stage where its all bad.....I dont see the point in it. Me and my OH are still very much in love and still want to get married, were looking into options at the moment, so if anyone has any ideas of where we could run off to and do it that would be great! Sorry for the rant but this has been bubbling for a while now and I just needed to get it off my chest....

Really sorry to hear that! What a shame other people have made it so miserable for you

What about Gretna Green!? I don't think I could postpone mine 5 months away! If I were in your situation I would do something smaller and perhaps abroad and not tell anyone and then have a MASSIVE party when you get back! x

oww what a horrible situation for you to be put in!

I would run away to some where amazing, get married  just the two of you and then have massive party when you get back!!

xx

Lainey thats pants that everyone else has made you feel like that.

Why dont you take a couple of your closest friends on holiday with you and get maried abroad?

xx

We wouldnt be able to scale down the actual ceremony anymore than we already have, I have a really large family and we have alot of close friends who I couldnt pick one over the other sort of thing so the ceremony was hard enough deciding numbers, Everyone involved and actually people who arent involved are sticking their noses in and making it a complete and utter nightmare, we will probably have a party after with the people who havent made our lives a misery afterwards, im just absolutely gutted, but we dont want to go through with it when all it is doing is making us miserable

Thats such a shame!

If i was you i'd book somewhere abroad and just take the people who mean alot to you because most people wouldt be able to go anyway!

xxxx

Hiya..

Glad you both still together..

I am sorry what happen with your family etc, if its happen to me, we just run off get married abroad and or bring close friends, its all about me and OH...... its happen to my sister, she and her hubby planning to go hoilday to OZ, about a week before they fly off, told our family that they gettin married in OZ.. of course we were upset and we thought oh okay, we have party back home, Nope they dont wanna that.. they wanna over and done.. its been upset for my mum.. but that what they wanted...

I have notice you booked your honeymoon, just a thought why not honeymoon to be your wedding, if you can arrange wedding there...and have party back home..

xxx

Hope everything will going well, and okay xx

So sorry to hear your news. Why are people so mean spirited?

I go along with the others, run off somewhere romantic and have a party when you get back.

Very sorry to read this. 

Families and weddings are a nightmare but such a shame that yours have made you feel so upset about your wedding.

As for running away to do it there are so many places you can go to do it.

Gretna Green if you don't want to go far.

Or you could get married and combine it with your honeymoon.

Cyprus, Italy, Maldives, Mauritius, Florida, in fact anywhere.

Or if you want something a little more wacky you could do Vegas.

And then if you wish you could have a party when you return. You could even do it so that no one knows you are off getting married and just think you are having a party, until they get there.

Really sorry to hear that - especially as it's other people dictating you call the wedding off.

I say you should take the money you've saved, go on the holiday of a life time and get married whilst you are there. Yeah, it'll p!ss some people off but hey, better them than you, right?!

I am so sorry to hear this. This is my opinion... by the sounds of it you have clearly come to the end of your tether and feel really deflated about the whole thing. WHo can blame you, trying to accomodate everyone and your b***** sister and dad - how rude!! That, it appears, is why you cant be bothered now, because they cant! 

I myself last week felt like calling the whole thing off because of my rubbish co-ordinator and his lack of enthusiasm, and he isnt even important to me like sister/dad. This is what I think you should do. Take a week or so to switch off from it all then come back to it with the attitude. 'its MY wedding. we will have what we want, where we want and sod everyone else' all else fails - elope! It worked for my mum and dad and just about to celebrate 40yrs of marriage. I also think that calling it all off might make key players sit up and take notice of their hurtful actions. also WHEN its back on pick another MOH. Its your day, and I know it can be overwhelming but please dont loose sight of who is really important here, and it is you and OH x

Thanks for all your replies, its good to talk about it. I have just had enough, we have already booked our honeymoon, and its costing us a fortune, I looked at having the wedding there aswell but it is just far too much money for us. My best friend is coming round later, were gonna start looking at options then, im just sick and tired of it all, nothing ever good happens to my family so i thought that my wedding would be a good thing, but obviously not, me, my oh, my mum and my best friend are the only ones who have given a damn, my poor mum is in tears over this all

oh by the way.. we was planning get married here, now we decided to go abroad away cos i have big family, (some of them dont even get on, or spoken each other) and me and OH got two world (Deaf world and Hearing World) its make our list bigger... that we cant affford..

So we just have my family and OH's family and 4 of our best friends off to Greece (That place we wanna go)...

xx

oh by the way.. we was planning get married here, now we decided to go abroad away cos i have big family, (some of them dont even get on, or spoken each other) and me and OH got two world (Deaf world and Hearing World) its make our list bigger... that we cant affford..

So we just have my family and OH's family and 4 of our best friends off to Greece (That place we wanna go)...

xx

aw lainey thats a shame you've been made to feel like this.

I think you should pack your cases with some close friends and family and go somewhere hot to get married.