O/T - Feeling a bit down...

Hey ladies,

i know i havent been on here for a long time but im feeling a bit rubbish atm and just wanted an ear and some advice...

We went out for my 30th Birthday on Saturday and for some reason my sister (also sole BM at my wedding) got into an awful mood for the WHOLE night, i think it was because she had broken up with her boyfriend, and then witnessed my friend getting off with my BIL2b, anyway the long and short was I kept asking if she was ok and she was hardly joining in or chatting to any of the others on the night. At the end of the night she just walked off to the cab stand and ignored me so i had a go at her (also told her to p off if she was going to bring the mood of the night down) telling her she had been in an awful mood all night making everyone else feel uncomfortable...

Anyway the long and short was this morning she sends me a text, to which I thought might be a sorry for being so moody/making everyone worry, she says he i should find someone else to be my BM and she will keep out of my way!!!!

I felt so upset, I phoned my Mum and then MUM has a go shouting at me saying I shouldn;t of told her to p off etc (Ok not the best choice of words atm, but I didn't think her being so moody for the whole night was fair, she barely even wished me happy birthday after 12 either and by the end of the night I had just about had it!!!).

So no not only my sister is annoyed with me, I had my Mum shouting at me and now shes annoyed because I told her it felt like she was taking my sisters side even though she basically snubbed me for the whole night...

I don;t know what to do now... My sister was sole BM and my Mum is supposed to be paying for the wedding!!

And now I feel like im in the wrong somehow even though I feel like she should be saying sorry (my sister) for being in such an awful mood!

I also found out today that in the cab she was REALLY rude to my friend, because she had asked if she was ok and my sister bit her head off saying "Of course im not ok after my sister has shouted at me and I had to up with you and ........ kissing in the club"

:(( Help!!!

She doesn't mean it, If she has just finished with her bf she is bound not to be in the best party mood. If I were you I think I would ring her and talk to her, she needs you now!

Hi Steelgoddess,

I'm sorry you had a bad birthday :(  I was very large and pregnant for my 30th so I didn't enjoy mine either!

However... my advise is to try and talk to your sister and comfort her... She is probably feeling really down... like you said she had just split from her BF and she may feel a little envious of you getting married.  

I know you are feeling poo too but if you make amends with your sister, your mum will be happier and this will then make you happier... if you get what I mean.

Hope that helped a little... 

Kim x

I think you need to just take a step back. It sounds as though your sisters break up has hit her hard than she'd expected and (understandably) can't enjoy being with other couples at the moment. Give her some time and I'm sure she'll come around, go for a coffee with her and don't talk weddings...there are many other topics of conversation other than relationships.

Shes now turned around and says she doesnt want to be BM.

Its going to look so odd not having her as bm...

*sigh*

I really feel like just eloping to get married!!!

:(

Oh dear, only advice i can give is let the dust settle and it will all work itself out soon.  Hugs to you x

I'm sorry to hear that you're birthday didn't go well but I agree with the others on here in that she's probably just hitting out in anger and needs time to get her own emotions about her break up in check before she can handle thinking of anything else. I'd give her a few days to calm down then have a chat with her about her before you jump in with asking about being a bridesmaid.

tahdah:

I think you need to just take a step back. It sounds as though your sisters break up has hit her hard than she'd expected and (understandably) can't enjoy being with other couples at the moment. Give her some time and I'm sure she'll come around, go for a coffee with her and don't talk weddings...there are many other topics of conversation other than relationships.

wss.

Thanks ladies, i think you're right im going to leave it for now...

Was supposed to be going to Hobbycraft with my Mum tomorrow but will just go on my own instead until she calls me...

How can so much drama come before a wedding? This really sucks but I know some others have it worse off so going to try and be positive...