My toddler prefers his daddy to me

My toddler (27 months) always wants his daddy and does not want me at all.  If he cries he wants his daddy, if coats needs to be put on he wants his daddy to do it.  I know I should not feel hurt but I do :-(

I keep worrying it's because I have to discipline him more than his dad because I am a SAHM.  I have also been quite strict because we had a horrible phase of  him being rough (hitting and biting) other children. ( I used time out and/or going home.)  He is so much better now with other children, but I can't help think this is related to him not wanting me.  :-(

Anyone else had this??

I think it is quite normal.  Daddy is more of a novelty than mummy!  The good cop/bad cop thing sucks sometimes too but is worth it in the end

It will pass like everything else.

It's because mummy is always there, you are an absolute constant.  Daddy is a novelty ...

My son, though younger is exactly the same. He shouts no no no every morning when he sees it's me and not his daddy getting him up and organised. When Mr E is home I get literally shoved away.

It's a bit crushing when you spend all of your time trying to do the best that you can for them but I keep telling myself it's not that I am unloved it's just that he's so secure about my presence and love he doesn't need to think about it whereas he hardly sees Mr E so he needs to make more of a fuss.

though because it's horrible and makes you feel so bad sometimes.

I have this but with the added guilt of the fact that I work much longer hours than my H so he in fact spends more time with my H than with me.  Daddy daddy daddy is all I seem to hear.  I know it's irrational but I have felt very upset and rejected at times.  I'm hoping it's a phase.

My little boy was just the same. It all changed when baby no 2 arrived, when he was 2 years 10 months. Now he wants us equally, he seems to alternate! I did find it upsetting at the time.

My son was/is exactly the same!

It helped me to read that from about 18 months they realise that Daddy is like them and they identify with the male role model and want to do everything Daddy does. Try not to take it personally, I think they are also at the age where they play one parent against the other - A always wants Daddy when I discipline him and vise versa when Daddy disciplines him. Its just a phase and I've actually started to enjoy Daddy having to do all the grotty jobs like wiping bums etc instead of me! :)

Thanks for your replies.  It is very reassuring it is not just me - and hopefully it's just a phase.    I hope so because I do feel upset.

We have the opposite; at 27 months Daniel is a complete mummy's boy, although after a couple of months we seem to be coming out the other side. It was horrible though, and my H got very upset. It's just a phase a lot of them go through and I don't think there's anything to do other than wait it out