More potty training woes.....

We started training L (33m) a couple of months back initially just in the house and then pull ups when we went out (but still went to the toilet etc if possible) and then a couple of weeks ago we ditched the pull ups altogether.

Some days she has no accidents at all, other days she will have about 4 she hasn't cracked the poo yet but I know this is to be expected.

She is very good at going when I ask her to now and will go before we go out and when we get home etc but she doesn't seem as good at being able to tell us when she is full to bursting and will do huge wees wherever she is and once it starts she can't seem to stop it I know she has the control because she can do it when asked etc but the washing & clearing up wee is getting to me......

I don't want to go back to pull ups as she is more good than bad but how can I help her crack the rest of it? We have a sticker chart for successful wees etc and at the end of each chart she will get a present like a magazine or something, she has completed about 4 of these so she isn't all bad....

I read other posts on here where kids have cracked it within a few days or weeks and just want to cry

Helpful hints & tips all considered

No idea but we're at the same stage, athough I haven't ditched the pull ups again this time.   Boody hate this,. it sucks.

I think the thing is just to perservere and be consistent in what you say or so - ie don't go back to nappies and just do pull ups at night/naps.

L cracked it with wees  but did have accidents when tired or distracted -could this be an issue maybe? Re poos.

We had a couple of months of poo accidents and lots of icky washing for me (not nice as I'm sure you know!) and it finally stopped after I tempted her with chocolate buttons (against my better judgement). After a week or so of a PR campaign - a choc button AND a sticker per successful poo on the loo, it sunk in and she started to use the loo or potty.

Does she go to preschool yet? We also hinted to R that she could only wear pants at preschool and they have little child sized loos there which were clean and nice to use etc, so I think that helped to make her feel more comfortable. Also seeing other children use the loos helped reinforce her toilet skills I think.

I think in terms of 'cracking it' meant that Maddie could say she needed a wee and off we'd go to the toilet. It is actually only really in the last 6 weeks or so that we've not had a couple of accidents a week. And when she was newly PT'd and for the few months after it was often an accident a day - it was one of her big stars for her chart to get through the day without an accident, so it was by no means perfect from 4 days in. 

TBH - what you're describing isn't far off what Maddie was like at times. I'd have days where she would just wee everywhere, and then she'd go a few days with no accidents and be golden about it, it was so frustrating. I think I just had to keep on reminding her to ask if she needed a wee, and I limited her fluid intake in that I didn't let her just down a big cup of water, and she wasn't to come and go to it without me keeping an eye on it, just so that I could limit the times that she was so desperate for a wee she just went before being able to say anything. 

Poo's - Up until August (and she was potty trained in January) she'd poo in her knickers, practically every time, so yes, that does take longer. 

I think the best advice I can give is perservere and it will get better, it just takes time. 

HTH

It took the girls quite a while to be able to realise long enough in advance that they needed to go - so I used to take them to the toilet at regular intervals. Definitely before and after going out, before meals and at other intervals.  That way, we avoided some of the accidents. THey would often protest, but I persisted and they always went.  Then they got chocolate....

Glad it's not just me then!

We do try and go at regular intervals during the day and as I said she is pretty good at this but for example after tea last night I asked her if she needed a wee and she said no and then she weed on the carpet in the lounge right next to the potty!

She does go to preschool but has only been twice in pants so far and had accidents both times but we will persevere with this one! She likes to take her potty so I take it in with her and show her where the toilets are etc and remind her to ask someone to take her but obv as much as they can keep an eye on her they have others to look after as well

She does get stickers and we even give her two stickers for a poo but this obviously isn't enough of an incentive

I will keep going but am glad I am not the only one as in RL you seem to be surrounded by people who potty train in half an hour [sigh]

If anyone who has trained their girl in half an hour would like to contact me, I will sell my car to have them work the same magic on S... she's doing brilliantly but isn't it fecking exhausting? The constant high alert, the cleaning, the laundry (I appear to be the only person who knows how to use the machine), the night-wakings because she's too keyed to relax?!

Breathe.

Anyways, you're not alone x

We have a chart which gives S a dolly (cheap market tat but she loves it) after 10 successful wees. Poos get a chocolate button. Poo is still our problem, and yesterday she was back in nappies for a few hours at her request because of her poo-stress. Oh, we also have Peppa Pig pants...

That's all the ideas I have!

I think that it actually sounds like its going well. Getting them to know when they're going more than half a second before hand and to plan ahead are two different things.

I persuade my daughter to come with me to the toilet when we're out - she must think I have a bladder problem I'm going so often

I also remind her a lot. Although it doesn't always work. Because sometimes she still forgets.

A bribe of a chocolate button has worked wonders too .

I guess you have to remember that they are still very small and you wouldn't have expected her to go from crawling to walking without practising first. And its the same with this. Not that that helps with the cleaning up, washing, etc, etc.

We did potty training with my daughter in Aug, from day 1 we never went back to a nappy or pull ups, pants all the way unless nap or bedtime. The first week was a real frazzle, me ready to give up & her upset with the wees on the floor, funnily she managed poo very quickly & has only ever had 2 poo accidents. We didn't leave the house for 5 days & I felt like she was a newborn again & I was feeding her unable to move all over again.

My H took over as the weekend approached & she was suddenly asking to go, I couldn't believe it as previously I was putting her on the potty ever 30 mins & she was still weeing everywhere.

Just trying to give you some hope that they do get there. However, I still carry spare clothes & potettee everywhere with me. We hardly use it now, but it was in constant use initially until she became able to hold wee. I still put on her on the loo if she hasn't been for a couple of hrs, but mostly she'll ask & she always asks for poo.  Tough as it was, I'm sure the pants only thing was the way she mastered it.