2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

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  • 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    I set up a burger van/cafe in a static caravan in January after being made redundant in Novemeber.

    In February my God Mothers sister collapses in hospital aged 52 caused by a virus. She suffers various heart attacks and strokes and is now barely coherent and slipping away in some sort of hospice/home place.

    In March or April (can't rememeber just now) this year my H announced we needed time apart and a week later asked for a divorce, I was oblivious to the fact that things were really 'that bad'.

    In May I met a luffley new man who lives 100 miles away, I am welcomed in to the family like a long lost something or other.

    In July this year luffley man's mother, who has been battling cancer is about to be told its terminal whne, in the blink of an eye is suddenly whipped away from us, i have 2 hour journey to the hospital, I get there in 90 mins and she slips away before our very eyes.

    My van is doing ok, i have doubled my monthly takings since February, have won some local companies over and am building a lovely little customer base.

    In the last few weeks since luffley mans mother passed I have been broken into 3 times, despite taking steps to stop this happening. ALl they ever take is drink, chocolate and pop. SOCO never manage to get a decent print. Altogether this happens 5 times.

    This morning I arrive on my Ind. Est to see the police turning out of the road where I am situated and I know they are there for me, I see my van door wide open - again. The police accompany me in and all my little van has been emptied, all my equipment has gone, about £500 worth. I cannot afford to replace it and even if I could it isn't worth it as it will all go again, of that I am sure.

    I am officially out of business now, there are very very few jobs in my area, I am falling further and further behind with my mortage and now I have no income and £90 of stock going out of date in my front room and a 3 yr lease to work my way out of

    Luffley man is sat at the side of the A12 with a blow out on his lorry and I can't talk to him just now as thay're trying to get him sorted. He wants to drive up tonight to be with me as all I have done is cry down the phone at him today but he has had to sell his car to help pay for his wonderful mums funeral.

    I hope you don't mind but I sort of just needed to get this all out

    Please, someone tell me something truly wonderful which has happened to them this year - or alternatively, if you too are 'enjoying' what is possibly the sh!test year of the century then please feel free to add you whinges here...

    OR, you can hit the 'back' button and carry on as if you never read this!

    Roll on 2010 xxx

    That is all

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    But your new bloke sounds like a rather large silver lining.

    The truly wonderful thing for us this year is that a very close relative who was all but written off as dead this time last year is very much alive and well and in remission. Nothing beats that really.

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    Oh that's horrible.......is there any way you could get a caravan you can move to a secure site overnight?  Perhaps one of the local businesses you've been dealing with would come in as a partner?

    I'm so sorry, I really don't know what else to say Hug

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    Sorry to hear someone else is having an Annus Horribilus.

    We have had a pretty bad go of things too. I got made redundant in March, DH was made redundant in June but taken back on as a temp worker until the work runs out but is living from month to month.

    However DH has had to work these last two months away from home which would have been hard normaly but made worse that my wonderful dad died on fathers day after a long battle with Cancer. So I have been dealing with my grief and my mums, and basically had to take over the running of her home as well as mine.

    It is also DH & my 7th wedding anniversary this year and our 13th anniversary of getting together. I'm convinced that something bad is going to happen in our relationship before the year is out.

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    Wow MJ that is fab - I love to hear of survivors. The bic C gets too many good people :(

    Thanks memyselfandi - I hadn't thought of that but right now funds are erm, limited to say the least (read 'non-existent'!)

    and yes, luffley man is fab Love

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    Oh you poor thing, what a horrid year. Like Missus Jolly says, your new chap sounds really lovely though. Hug

    Ha! Begone you daft tickers!

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    I agree that your new man sounds like the silver lining. 

    Could you borrow some money to buy some new equiptment? If you've built up a good base of customers it seems such a pity to lose them. If you did get some equiptment, could you get some kind of insurance incase it happens again? 

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    Oh SF that is so rough - I am so sorry for your loss.

    Screw the 7 year itch - you'll be reeet xxx

    I am just going through the paperwork to do a parachute jump for the Helen Rollason Cancer Charity - I feel like I need to do something constructive after sitting there feeling so utterly useless as she slipped away :(

    Love to you and your family xx

  • Re: 2009 - an annus horribilus - completely selfish whine :(

    yes thank you everyone luffley man is truly fab and I wish I'd met him years ago but ho hum.

    I had already borrowed to the hilt off my mum to do this.

    We have our 'suspicions' about who is behind all this and they'll just keep on going. Luffley Man is looking into containers for me as they can be made secure but again - its money :(

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