OT - Feel lost, sad, bit numb. Don't really know what to do

I don't know if any of you will have seen my posts about Mr S being posted to a new job 2 years earlier than expected.  Well he found out today that he is going to Waddington (Lincs).  Out of the 3 most likely places, this was our least favourite.  I've spent the last 4 weeks trying to "look on the bright side" and "find the positives" in everything, waiting to hear where they were sending us. Now I know I just feel a bit numb.

We used to live there and I was so unhappy.  I am really not looking forward to going back.  I don't want to leave where we are now, I love our house, I love where we live and I have some fabby friends as well as my beautiful shop.  Now I have to leave it all behind, to go somewhere that I don't want to go.

Can I please stamp my feet and have a bit of a tantrum.  I want to be 3 again and be all moody....

And i'm sitting here on my own (Mr S is in the Falklands).  Can't pop over to a friends as Aliya is already in bed sparko.  Do have wine though!

Very sad little K xx

Can't offer any help, other than to say: a) drink wine ; b) you have every right to feel how you feel. Have you talked to him about it? I would be exactly the same

Oh, have a very inadequate virtual hug. I'm not suprised you're feeling a bit lost, it sounds like a mega upheaval. Is there any chance you can stay put? Or maybe move but not too close to the town you don't like?

I really feel for you, I'd hate to have a move forced on me. You're doing the right thing though thinking of the positives, there must be some there somewhere.

Sparky x

Big s - hope it is better than you remember and that you can find some new fabby friends (perhaps hitchers) there.

Stamp away, but don't spill your wine

xx

Starstruck no wonder you are feeling the way that you do.  I really hope that it is not as bad as you remember it to be. 

We can't do anything about the move (he is RAF so when they say you go, you go).  Aliya and I could stay put, but it would mean 6 - 8 years of only seeing Mr S at weekends, which we just can't do.  We can't afford to live anywhere other than in married quarters as we have a house up here that we don't want to sell (we bought it, thinking that we would be here forever, and certainly with a view to grow old here).  If we rent this house out, we could cover the mortgage and maybe the married quarter rent, but definately not another mortgage.

Currently my only positive is that we do know a couple of people that live there already, which is always a good thing.

I hadn't realised how much I didn't want this one, until he told me he got it.  I can't talk to him as he is in the Falklands and I can only call him when he has called me to tell me which number to call him on.  (I found out all this cos he left a message on the answerphone!)

<mantra>  At least he has a good job.  At least he has a good job.  At least he has a good job  </mantra>

Thank you as well - all of you, for the lovely hair stroking.  Tis much needed right now.  Even my mum doesn't seem to be around to talk to on the phone - have left her a message so maybe she'll call later.

Need a new glass of wine - lol.  Don't worry, foot stamping is taking place whilst precious wine is safely on the table!

Oh K lovely, I'm so sorry it isn't where you had hoped it would be. 

Sending s, it must be V hard that you can't just call Mr S to talk about things. 

You know where I am
M xx

P.S  You are a fab business woman - set up Aliya-Rose mark 2 in Lincs......

That does sound pretty rough. Hope its not as bad as you remember and you can build on the old freindships and find some new friends.

Another, rather useless virtual hug

Waddington's not so bad ;-)  D's based there and we're local, so happy to meet up for a coffee (or two).

feel free to email me: hitchedzebedee@yahoo.co.uk

Thank you.  I really do hope that I can build on old friendships.  They used to live here near us, but since we have all had children I have really let the friendships slide.  They both had their first after me, and now one has 2 boys, and the other is about due her second and third as she is having twins!  I have found it really hard to be around anyone who sailed through early montherhood as I feel so robbed of our own early years due to PND.  I *think* that I have overcome that now, but I still haven't made any advances to patch things up.  I hope I can explain why i've kept my distance without causing offence.  I just felt so jealous, and didn't want to say anything horrible so it seemed safer to stay away.  They also all knew me before I got pregnant and I was a lot different then, both personality and physically, I suppose I am feeling a bit shy and silly about it all to be honest.  Kind of ashamed/embarrissed that i'm not who I used to be.

Snowball - lol - thank you!  I think that we'll stick with the 1 shop for now!  AM going to work more on Starstruck, and also focus on having another baby!

Would the words 'Falling Bostal' help here at all?

Zebedee - thank you  - that is so kind.  I don't know when we are moving yet (he's been told that it could be anytime between now and December), but i've saved your email addy and will drop you a line when we get down there, if you are sure you don't mind.

Is D in the RAF?  We lived in Sleaford from Aug 2001 to Oct 2002, I did a lot of temping work, Lincs LSC, Interflora marketing etc.  Have to admit that I did love living close to Nottingham, and London isn't too far away either.  My parents are in Plymouth, so still a fair trek, although nothing compared to the 10/12 hour drive that we currently have from Scotland!  Perhaps the last time we were there I knew we weren't staying long so was bored just killing time.  Will have to jump in with both feet and make the most of it this time.

yep, D's in the RAF (I'm sure we've talked about this before, but years, and years ago!)  We don't live on base, but in one of the nearby villages.  He's been based here for over 10 years now, so no doubt will get posted at some stage.

LOL KJX, yes - have added that to my list, as in "this is better than...."

Valley (N.Wales)
Kinloss (very N. Scotland)
Moscow (too cold)
Las Vegas (we'd never see him)......
.....Fallingbostel (nuff said!)

(No offence meant to anyone that lives in any of these places - just not my personal cup of tea, kinda like white wine - i'd rather drink red!)