Wedding co-ordinator's not going to be co-ordinating

Just had an email from our wedding co-ordinator to say that she has to go into hospital the day before our wedding so she won't be there on the day now.

I appreciate it's not her fault and I certainly hope it's nothing serious, but it has thrown me a bit to be honest.

I've asked if we can meet her deputies (who will be covering for her) at some point within the week. I'm probably be silly but I know that I'm not going to have the opportunity on the morning of the wedding to go round and check everything myself* so I want to reassure myself that the deputies are singing from the same song sheet that I am.

Sorry - just wanted to vent.

*Not being bridezilla, but I'm a project manager and I've had it drilled into me to only deal in certainties and to never make assumptions.

When I saw the thread title, I thought you was going to say she's not going to be wearing the right shade of teal!

Sorry

If she's a well recommended co-ordinator, then I doubt she'd employ someone who is incompetent. I'm sure she'll make it beautiful for you and as long as you tell her exactly what you do and don't want, then there isn't mush room for error. You'll feel better too. Hope you get things sorted soon, as I'm sure you don't need this pressure on-top of all the other stresses of the wedding.

Zippy27:

When I saw the thread title, I thought you was going to say she's not going to be wearing the right shade of teal!

Sorry

Thanks for putting it in perspective for me!

ooh la la:

If she's a well recommended co-ordinator, then I doubt she'd employ someone who is incompetent. I'm sure she'll make it beautiful for you and as long as you tell her exactly what you do and don't want, then there isn't mush room for error. You'll feel better too. Hope you get things sorted soon, as I'm sure you don't need this pressure on-top of all the other stresses of the wedding.

This is the co-ordinator at the venue, rather than somebody that we've employed independently. I'm sure her deputies are more than competent, but this close to the wedding when you think you've got everything in place it throws you off-balance a bit that the person you've been planning everything with isn't going to be there.

I am being a bridezilla aren't are?

kelly29:

ooh la la:

If she's a well recommended co-ordinator, then I doubt she'd employ someone who is incompetent. I'm sure she'll make it beautiful for you and as long as you tell her exactly what you do and don't want, then there isn't mush room for error. You'll feel better too. Hope you get things sorted soon, as I'm sure you don't need this pressure on-top of all the other stresses of the wedding.

This is the co-ordinator at the venue, rather than somebody that we've employed independently. I'm sure her deputies are more than competent, but this close to the wedding when you think you've got everything in place it throws you off-balance a bit that the person you've been planning everything with isn't going to be there.

I am being a bridezilla aren't are?

 

Noooo, I'd be shitting myself!!! Haaa.

Just make sure that you've communicated EVERYTHING, so you leave nothing to her imagination. (Then she wont put ribbons round the "fire exit" signs and other random - why didn't you spend your time on the more important things, things!!!)

kelly29:

Zippy27:

When I saw the thread title, I thought you was going to say she's not going to be wearing the right shade of teal!

Sorry

Thanks for putting it in perspective for me!

SOrry, thats just the first thought that popped in my head when I read the title!!!

I'd be a bit on edge too. You are not being bridezilla at all.

Just had a reply back to say that the only dates they have available for us to meet the deputies are 25th or 30th.

As 25th is H2B's UK stag night (he's already had one in Dublin but that's a different rant) that means we will only meet them two days before the wedding! I suppose in one way that means we get the opportunity to run through everything again before the set-up.

(Takes deeeeeeeep breath)

{biting nails icon}

Zippy27:

kelly29:

Zippy27:

When I saw the thread title, I thought you was going to say she's not going to be wearing the right shade of teal!

Sorry

Thanks for putting it in perspective for me!

SOrry, thats just the first thought that popped in my head when I read the title!!!

I'd be a bit on edge too. You are not being bridezilla at all.

I thought that too Zippy, you're not alone! x

Where we got married and at the Marriott where my daughter works, the wedding coordinator deals with the bride beforehand but on the day there is a duty manager who does the job, this could be one of several people they are just given the coordinators file and notes so i wouldn't worry too much

I'm sure it will be fine and if you meet 2 days before then hopefully it will be still fresh in their minds.

Do most people have wedding co-ordinators? mmm we don't have one.

The lady that we met with throughout and co-ordinated all the details with wasn't going to be there on the day either, she only works weekdays etc. We just met with the duty manager the day before the wedding, had a meeting with him and the co-ordinator, handed over all the bits and pieces and they did a fine job.  You'll be fine, but I can understand your worries when you had thought she was going to be there all along xxx

Your definately not being bridezilla although this would be the perfect opportunity , the deputy co-ordinators will do a great job, they wouldn't of been promoted to deputy if that wasn't the case, the venues reputation would be on the line otherwise.

At least with meeting them 2 days before the wedding if you want to tweek anything you can and everything will be fresh in their memory, it will all be fine