Would you invite an ex to your wedding?
For
me, weddings are a time when you have your loved ones around you as you
celebrate walking down the aisle and starting your new life as husband and
wife.
So I
was very intrigued recently when I read an article about a woman who had her
fiance's ex-girlfriend as her maid of honour.
Writing for the Stir, Jeanne Sager explained how she
moved to her husband's town two months before the big day and started a job on a
local paper.
Here,
she made friends with a woman called
Alaina who, it turned out, used to
date her partner when they were at school.
"The fact that both
were easy, open and honest about it practically begged me to take her up on the
offer of friendship," Ms Sager continued.
She said Alaina helped
out with all the last-minute wedding preparations "and when I asked her to stand
up on the altar to see her one time boyfriend say 'I do' she said, 'I
will,'"
I think this is a great
story but I'll admit, it can't be too often brides and grooms find themselves in
this kind of situation. These were pretty exceptional circumstances and, as Ms
Sager noted, the fact her husband and her maid of honour were together many
years ago at school made a big difference.
Ex-partners usually
just conjure up feelings of jealousy and insecurity, so I can imagine having
them at a wedding would be a bad idea for most people, even if things did end on
good terms or you were all friends.
Would you have an
ex-partner at your wedding?